(Closed) Does everyone go through a “waiting” phase?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
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  • Post # 3
    540 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I started the hand on the hip and tapping of the foot after year five.  We’d talked about marriage before, but it was time to take action.  Took another two years of waiting after that.

    Post # 5
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    No, I never felt like I was “waiting”.  I was with an amazing guy, working hard, living a full life.  I knew we were in sync and I spent next to no time worrying about it.  We were engaged after 3 years, when I was 30.  We moved in together after 2.5 years.  I knew it would either happen within a year of living together or I would move on – because if we/he didn’t know by that point, than we weren’t meant to be. I didn’t want to have to talk him into it, nudge him, nag him.  Either he wanted me to be his wife or he didn’t and I felt confident that if he did, he would make it happen.  No discussion, no timeline, I just enjoyed it all. (I knew he was the one from very early on in our relationship, but I was only ready for us to take that step after we moved in together)

    Post # 6
    2152 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    No we never went through a waiting period.  We talked about it a bit.  And then decided I would give him my ring size when I was ready.  After i gave him the size, then he proposed in two months, but I wasn’t waiting for it. It was actually earlier than I expected.

    Post # 7
    6244 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    He proposed on our 7-year anniversary, so yes, there was definitely a waiting phase for me.

    Post # 8
    1796 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I was never waiting. Actually, he proposed a lot sooner than I would have ideally liked.

    Post # 9
    9967 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Boobies, lmao!  I almost voted for that.  But no, I never felt I had a real waiting period.  We’ve never been apart since we met; for us it was love at first sight and things progressed naturally since then.  He brought up the topic of marriage first and we discussed it some.  He asked what kinds of rings I liked and we shopped together, but in the end he surprised me with my ring.  He actually proposed even sooner than I thought he would.

    Post # 10
    4693 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m waiting.  We’re young (but I’m older), and he didn’t feel ready for marriage as soon as I did.

    ETA: We’ve been together 5.5 years, I started thinking about marriage between 3-4 years into our relationship.

    Post # 11
    1100 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Yes, for me there was a waiting phase. After 5-1/2 years he proposed and we lived together for 5 years, so I was like okay come on now! Laughing

    Post # 12
    318 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I voted “sorta.” We got engaged after dating for a little over two years, and we really only discussed getting engaged seriously a couple of months before that. I felt like I would have been ready probably 6 months beforehand, but I didn’t really go through the “hand on the hip and toe tapping,” as GeorgianTeacup puts it. 

    Post # 13
    2701 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I was never waiting. My proposal was a complete shock. Good thing I’m a twin, DH used her finger to measure the size of the ring! lol

    Post # 14
    1092 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No, I was never waiting for a proposal. FH surprised me with it and I was ecstatic but I never expected or suspected it was coming.

    Post # 15
    7309 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Yep, we had a “waiting” period. We decided to move in together (rental) and set a timeline for shopping for our own home (purchase). I made it clear that I would not live together without an imminent engagement, and would not shop for a house without a ring on my finger and a wedding date set in stone. So from the time we decided to move in together in April to the time we got engaged in October I was just waiting for it to happen. The anticipation was no fun at all. I have several friends who waited for 2+ years in far less certain circumstances, and I don’t know how they managed to keep their sanity.

    Post # 16
    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Yes and no. I wasn’t sitting around impatiently waiting for a proposal, exactly, but from the time we talked about getting married (over Christmas) to the time he proposed (the following Fourth of July) I was anticipating it. 

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