(Closed) Does everyone go through a “waiting” phase?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Did you go through a "waiting" phase?
    Yes : (60 votes)
    36 %
    No : (68 votes)
    41 %
    Sorta : (16 votes)
    10 %
    Boobies : (21 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 62
    7605 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I was going to vote for “sorta” but then I saw the “boobies” option.

    Post # 63
    577 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Haha, I too voted for the boobies option.


    However, I definitely didn’t wait. My Fiance and I started dating when I was 15 and he was 17, and very early on in my teenage wisdom I forbade him from proposing to me until I graduated college. Come my senior year of college, we’ve been together for 6 and a half years and were talking hypothetically about the idea of getting engaged. One day out of the blue I texted him before my discrete mathematics class and asked him if he thought now was the time to get engaged. He said something to the effect of “That sounds fun ^_^” and I started ring shopping. A bit more than a week later we went the jewelry store, and I bought (and haggled successfully for) my ring. Originally, I offered to give it to him and have him propose when he wanted to, but he basically shrugged and said he just wanted to be engaged to me. We goofed around and debated what to do and ultimately ended up going back to my parents’ house and proposing to each other while snuggling. It was very us.


    As you can tell we’re not ones for traditional romance, but it works for us. Our way of being romantic is by making each other laugh every day, and we usually succeed at that. I think he came up with a motto that sort of describes us as we were walking around contemplating how to get engaged: “Romance is something you do, not something you plan.”


    So moral of the story, no waiting here. We decided that it was time to get engaged, and we did it.

    Post # 64
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    yes. when we had been together for about 2 years, I started hoping he would propose. I had to wait 2 more years before that happened.

    however, it wasn’t super urgent for me. I’m not sure how many more years needed to go by before I would think about harassing him about it, but it never came to that.  also, when it finally happened, I had absolutely no clue the proposal was coming.

    Post # 65
    95 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    TOtally did the toe tapping but only because I had given him my grandmothers ring and we had selected the setting so I knew he had the ring…. if that hadn’t happened probably wouldn’t have been toe tapping.

    Post # 66
    1669 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I guess it depends on what the definition of waiting is… I’m waiting as in SO and I have discussed our engagement, when we want to get married, when we want to start trying for children, and have made really specific decisions about all of those things.

    I was in on the decision about the timeline (SO is a huge planner) so I don’t feel like I’m waiting at his “mercy” or anything, we’re just waiting on getting engaged until a few things fall into place for both of us.

    Its weird knowing you’re going to get married and not being engaged yet, I didn’t know how common that was till I came on here. I always thought you wouldn’t know, but now I am so glad that we openly discuss it all the time – its my life too, I should have a say!


    Post # 67
    724 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    He definitely proposed way before I expected him to. It works for us though!

    Post # 68
    5095 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Nope – our roles were reversed. He was ready to get engaged/married way earlier than I was.

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