Post # 1
I am about to go crazy with so many issues on a normal basis. I am starting to wonder if everyone has so many ups and downs and how you manage to keep level. My current thing is that we didn’t allow anyone a plus one if they aren’t in a relationship. My best friend is traveling in from out of state and didn’t want to travel alone so she is bringing her brother with. He is so excited to go to my wedding and has already bought his ticket….However, he wasn’t invited because I only have 100 seats period. Then today we find out that FH’s brother has a new girlfriend (dating 1 week) and he is planning on buying her a ticket to fly out to the wedding as his date. Once again not invited. How do you handle this? I have people invite themself or my dad has invited people without me inviting them.
We have a vendor that didn’t keep track of our payments and wants us to double check our records. Well and we have lots of other small things. Issues over the rehersal and how many people are coming. UGH I swear I want to pull my hair out. Is this normal or do I just have horrible luck with things related to my wedding?
Post # 3
I think it’s normal for some and not others. Sounds a lot like what I was going through before my wedding! Honestly wedding planning was a PITA because my Mother-In-Law was so hard to deal with and just made EVERYTHING difficult! You just have to try to keep calm and remember that your wedding day will be wonderful regardless of the drama that goes down beforehand. Hang in there, it is almost over!
Post # 4
@PitBulLover : Thank you. My Mother-In-Law is kind of an issue sometimes. I am currently dealing with my rehersal and that I can’t invite who I want unless it is someone in her family. Oh and to add to the issue about the FBIL’s one week girlfriend. Future Mother-In-Law has said that if it is an issue she will give up her seat for this girl (that she hasn’t met) to have a seat. WTF!!!!
Post # 5
@Nola: She sounds a little off the rocker but Im sure its only because of wedding planning. I never knew my Mother-In-Law was so crazy until planning our wedding! I don’t understand why your Future Mother-In-Law would give up her seat for your FBILs Gf of 1 week! HOpefully theyll break up between now and then? Also, since your wedding is still 2 months away maybe more people than you realize wont be able to come so the extra 2 people wont be that big of a deal.
Post # 6
In my experience, whenever you plan something (party, conference, event, sports, project) that involves 100 people you will have lots of practical issues. But try not to get too emotional about it and just answer the questions.
Remember this: No one can read your mind! Unless you clearly told everyone that there are no ‘plus one’s they have no idea that this would be a problem. Of course it’s wedding etiquette not to invite anyone extra to a wedding but in reality very few people know about wedding etiquette, unless you’re planning a wedding yourself you probably have no clue…
As for your best friend, I can understand her not wanting to travel long distance on her own so I’d try and fit a space for her brother if I were you. I wouldn’t do it for all guests but I would make an exception for my best friend.
Post # 7
My in-laws don’t even acknowledge that we’re planning a wedding.