(Closed) does everyone live in a huge, new, flawless mansion?? lol

posted 9 years ago in Home
Post # 17
1203 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

+1, OP. I hear you. I grew up in a house built in the 60s and when I went apartment hunting, I found that the ones that felt “right” to me had been built in a similar period. I don’t begrudge other people the McMansion stuff, but it’s just not how I was raised. I would like a comfortable house in which I can entertain humbly, and then to put any of the rest of my money into experiences!

Post # 18
5191 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Meh… to each their own. We live in a 1987 fixer upper with 3300 total square feet. That’s modest, by our county’s standards. But our 5 acre lot is amazing, so putting in the work will most definitely be worth it. And considering the homes that surround us, over-improving will never be a worry. It will have a sub zero fridge, marble counters on the island for rolling out dough, etc. by the time I am done renovating it. Quite honestly, I did my first house on the cheap with Ikea cabinets and low-midrange everything. But this is our forever home, I love interior design, and we can afford to save and buy the best, so we will.

Would it have been nice to build brand new to be as energy efficient as possible and be totally my style? Yes. But we didn’t want to spend $800k-ish upfront. So we stuck to the budget that we could afford on one income, and we’ll spend the next 10ish years saving, paying cash for all renos, and making it our perfect home. When you can’t get exactly what you want, you work to make it that way. 🙂

Post # 19
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Our house is small, old and in need of some serious updates and repairs.

Post # 20
6422 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

We live in a “country-type” area now that we’re married and our house is from 1940, and is 1200 Sq ft. (1/2 acre). I grew up in the suburbs of NY, and my parents house is worth 5x ours and is 3500 sq ft (1.5 acres). Even though big homes were pushed on me, I HATED the large homes. It never felt cozy. I always knew i wanted a cute tiny home.  🙂  Do what feels right!

Post # 21
2187 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Our home is close to 40 years old. It certainly is not ancient! Our home has 1880 sq. ft. and to tell you the truth, I could live in less than half that amount of space. In fact my last home (where I lived for 15 years) had less than 800 sq. ft. and I was perfectly happy there.

LAND is far more important to me than the house. We only have 4 acres and I DESPISE being able to see the neighbors. I loved living in a remote area – at my last home, the neearest neighbor was over a mile away, which was freaking AWESOME!!!!!!!

Post # 22
6835 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Yeah I hear ya!  We bought a cute but SMALL 850 sq ft house.  The siding is falling off (on the to-do list for this summer), there’s gross dingy lineoleum in the bathroom and kitchen, and our bathtub is PINK!  But you know what, it’s got huge windows, beautiful wood vaulted ceilings, nice wood floors, and two giant yards.  Plus it’s OURS, and I love that about it.

But seriously – I drive around sometimes and think, “What do these people do to get so rich that they can afford houses like this?!”

Post # 23
992 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Trust me, I understand completely. Our first home was/is < $100k and that is VERY COMMON here. The cost of living is A LOT less, and we make  enough to be secure financially with money left for frequent little trips. It’s shocking to see some of the houses on here, but I don’t really get jealous because I’m not used to seeing that IRL as much (at least for a first home).

ETA: Our house is 3br/2ba brick/vinyl and it’s 1450 sq ft. with a galley kitchen and was built in 2004. It’s not brand new, but definitely new-er, and was only 76k. The only things we had to fix on it was: leaky showerhead, non-functioning garbage disposal, and one board on the deck was broken.



I agree, though; lots of Bees here have large (but super beautiful!!) homes. I’m not jealous of them, nor do I think they don’t deserve a nice, large home, but it’s just not the ‘norm’ for my area. I live in Northern Alabama, if that gives perspective.

Post # 24
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Maybe I’m missing something but I haven’t seen anyone post pics of huge mansions?  I have seen a few Bees who are building houses or renovating post update pics but I don’t think they are mansions. Just nice new places which are probably not crazy expensive. I like those updates, it certainly doesn’t make me think they are bragging, just excited.


Post # 25
777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not that we can afford to buy or even rent anything close to a mansion, but I don’t let it bother me. One day we may live in a nice beautiful home, but for now, I am happy just having a roof over my head, even if the closets have warped shelves and 25+ layers of paint on what used to be metal poles for hanging clothing. Also happy that our carpeting isn’t 20 years old and dry rotted! 🙂

Post # 26
1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Stace126:  I think people who have nice houses are just far more likely to post them on the public internet! Me on the otherhand, erm, no one needs to see my messy and slovenly abode!  

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@family_girl:  Where in the UK??? Where I live that couldn’t get you a two bed flat, sadly! Let alone a house or title. I think the housing market is very geographically variable here too. 

Post # 27
819 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

We live in a townhouse right now that we rent and the average cost of a house here in WA state is looking like it’ll be a long while before we can afford to buy a home together..

I think it’s perfectly normal what you mentioned and I think you’re lucky to live in a place that HAS nice homes for first time home buyers in that price range, it certainly wouldn’t happen here unless we wanted to buy a trailer. LOL.

Post # 28
3372 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t live in a mansion but I absolutely love our house. It has so much character and I took great pride in decorating it. We paid 185k for it and honestly I like it better than my parents’ house which was appraised for over $1 million and is waterfront property Undecided

Post # 29
707 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Stace126:  I think that, as with everything else in life, looks can be deceiving. There’s an interesting mixture of McMansions and older, more modest-sized houses where we live. For what I paid for our rancher, I could’ve bought a newer McMansion in a less desirable community. But a) I wanted an established community, b) I wanted a yard (which the McMansions here barely have), and c) I wanted a house with good bones, not something that looks like it’s erected out of cardboard overnight. You might think that something built more recently is energy efficient and all that. But buyer beware. We just had insulation put into our attic, and the contractors told us that more and more construction companies are cutting corners here and there, which apparently adds up. They’d seen construction companies skimp on the stud spacing, putting in the absolute bare minimum for wall strength. We were also told that instead of the standard amount of insulation blown in, the contractors had seen construction companies skimp a little on the amount of insulation that should be put in. So when you think about all the square footage that needs to be heated/cooled in this places, the structural integrity needed to withstand major storms etc, all this could really cost the owners tens of thousands over the lifetime of the house. Do the construction companies care? They just want the bottom line. Sad. I think this explains why a work friend of mine’s daughter’s new home’s basement got flooded this summer just a couple months after they moved into it. Someone didn’t install a pipe correctly due to cut corners. Ugh. So don’t judge any house by its cover! Everything in society nowadays is disposable: commodities, jobs and houses!

Post # 30
1001 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Fiance and I are renting an apartment right now – we’re probably never going to be able to buy because property prices in our city are crazy! We live in a really nice suburb – we could probably rent a bigger place in a worse suburb but ours is perfect (close to public transport, low crime, good roads and shops etc).

Our apartment is…less perfect. It’s pretty big as apartments go, but it has no air conditioning (becoming a necessity where we live), a lot of maintenance issues and some crap neighbours.

Post # 31
7384 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I hear you, especially when I read home blogs. It’s like, these women my age have these giant, newer homes with a pantry, formal dining room, master suite, etc. Sure, I’d love to turn that “extra closet” into a wine room…but what the hell is an extra closet?! We were recently looking at a house that was just over 1000 sq ft for aobut $80k. The vast majority of homes in our city are around 1200 sq ft and built in the 1960s. Sure the newer, bigger houses are lovely, but I don’t know anyone who could afford one. Our housing prices are pretty low, though you can still find some very overpriced ones. There’s one for sale right now down from my FFIL’s house that’s $210k, 2100 sq ft, 4 bed/3 bath, but it’s in need of lots of updating.

ETA: There’s a house for sale here that looks so nice from the outside, and then you see the interior and you think, “Wow, you want how much for this?” I laugh every time I see the listing because the price needs to come down about 30% to get someone to take on that monstrosity.

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