Post # 1
Hi bees! I just moved in with my boyfriend and I’m over the moon, everything has been amazing so far. We’ve been talking about marriage and we decided we might want to take it one step at a time; enjoy living together first and afterwards get engaged (he wants to stop talking about it so it’s a complete surprise, so it could happen in the next few months or even next year)
I was wondering, does anything change after marriage? Or is it pretty much the same as living together?
*We’re both not religious so our marriage will only be civil. We also know we’re committed to each other as if we were married already
Post # 3
We only recently got married and we lived together already, everything is pretty much the same as before except a little nicer maybe. I don’t know if that is just the post wedding glow though.
Post # 4
We also lived together before marriage, and we’ve been married almost a year now. Nothing has really changed apart from our taxes, my last name and referring to each other as husband and wife.
Post # 5
Things are pretty much the same, but sweeter, I’d say.
Post # 6
I agree with all the previous posters. Nothing changed.
We lived together for over 3 years before getting married. We recently celebrated our 5 year anniversary.
Post # 7
victoria07 : It is pretty much the same, although we were already committed to eachother (lived together for 4 years and co-owned a house) it felt…more committed?
Im not sure how to explain it. I always envisioned having a family with him and growing old, but it sort of set it in stone. We started talking about kids a lot more, although we still dont have a hard timeline down.
I also get giddy still when i hear him say “my wife” even in passing conversation to someone else lol.
Post # 8
We’ve been married for around 9 months, and lived together for 3 years before we got married.
Surprisingly (as someone who wasn’t fussed about getting married), it does feel slightly different. I can’t really explain how, but we’re just in a really good place. It could be a coincidence, but it just feels like we’re making more of an effort because we have more skin in the game now?!
Post # 9
Absolutely nothing changed after we got married.
Post # 10
victoria07 : We lived together for years before marriage so no change. I just called him my husband instead of my Fiance.
Post # 11
It felt a little different because people are more eagerly to officially recognize you as a couple when you’re married. We also combined finances and got into mutual debt (bought a house) so that was different. Our day to day relationship did not change.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2019 - USA
victoria07 : Nothing changes on a day to day basis since we already lived together 1 year prior and owned our own home together. But I definitely feel more secure being married for some reason, we don’t argue about stupid stuff anymore like we used to when we were just dating.
Post # 13
Legally a LOT changes.
Relationship wise its probably less drastic.
Post # 14
Ummmm, you’re thousands of dollars poorer? But not much else is different.
Post # 15
I think the biggest changes were in how other people treated us as our relationship suddenly seemed to have more standing to them.
We definitely both put more effort in to resolve bigger issues when it would have been easier to leave before getting married. Stuff we couldn’t have predicted happened and we changed dramatically as people.
Other than that the relationship is the same. How I see some of the people in our lives has changed with people being incredibly difficult during wedding planning and threatening to fall out with us if we didn’t invite some of their friends who I only knew a little and didn’t like from what I saw. Was a huge shock as they weren’t contributing to the wedding and weren’t involved in planning either.