(Closed) Does Facebook ever get you down??

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

All the time 🙁

I’ve actually taken breaks from facebook so I stop comparing my life to others.  Cuz really their life isn’t as perfect as we think.  I mean, I’m sure some people are jealous of your life because they aren’t the ones living it, you know?

Post # 4
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I dont get FB envy as much as FB disgust. 
I have quite a few friends who have such drama filled lives and I get to read all about it on FB … the whole “men suck… trust no one”  or the “what a liar… so done with him” or “my liver is going to hate me tomorrow… so drunk”…

I find that more annoying then people with perfect lives. 

Post # 5
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I do have a couple friends that travel ALL THE TIME and I have no idea how they pay for all this. I wouldn’t say it gets me down but I am envious for a minute or two. The people who post about their perfect husbands don’t bother me, I just feel like they’re trying to prove something. No one has a perfect relationship.

Post # 6
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think you need to remember that a lot of people are only going to post the “good” things in order to project a certain image/perception of themselves.  Things are not always as they appear from the outside.

Focus on what you have!

Post # 7
2559 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@BusinessBride: Agreed. I have friends who I know for a fact right now are going through a potential break-up-worthy mess of a relationship, but to look at their fbook statuses right now, you’d think they were on cloud 9. People don’t like to put negative stuff out there when they’re trying to maintain a facade of perfection. Just be happy with your life and know there’s more than meets the eye to everyone elses!

And I’m guilty of vacation posting – we travel a lot and I love to post pics and talk about the stuff we see. Maybe I’ll cut back 😛

Post # 8
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It rarely gets me down!  I think maybe it did a little before we got engaged, because I felt a bit behind in my life (I’m in my late twenties) since everyone was getting engaged, married, and having babies.  I don’t feel that way any more.  This little quote helped me with that:

I hope that doesn’t come off as condescending; it really did help me (ages ago) when I first considered it.

Besides, I think that if you have to post how great your life is on FB all the time, you’re trying to prove something.  I find that, although I have never been happier or more blessed in my life than I am right now, I feel like I’m boasting if I post about it – so I don’t.

Post # 9
14496 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Legallyblondiebride:  I hate the facebook mushy people, or couples that talk to each other on fb declaring their love.  I end up blocking their feed.  To me, its kinda annoying  to read this show for people to see how in love and wonderful your relationship is.  I’m a little peeved whenever I see travel feeds cause I want to go too, but I take a lot of trips myself so I’m not really bothered by it.

Post # 10
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Facebook can be tough. It acts as a window into other people’s lives, and we see thinks we wouldn’t normally have access to. I’m guilty of being jealous or feeling sad about something I’ve seen someone else post, for sure.

But I think it’s really important to remember that how someone’s life appears on Facebook is how they choose to portray their life. They’re going to post and display want they want in order to make their life look a certain way. It’s certainly a skewed perspective, and I just try to remember that whenever I’m on there.

Post # 11
2981 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I get annoyed with FB alot- I have too many nauseating Too Much Information posts on my feed, including the saccharine sweet <3 love youuuuu <3 posts to the “men suck he’s not a father to by babie’ posts. Babie. Yes. Babie.

Not everyone’s lives are as perfect as they seem. I try not to post gripes and grumbles, but I also try not to post “brags” either. You never know what goes on behind the perfect housewive’s scenes!

Post # 12
329 posts
Helper bee

I know a lot of people who purposely post all their mushy-gushy happy stuff on FB to make it SOUND like they have a perfect life or to try and make others jealous. I feel like in a lot of cases, if you have to post that stuff all over the world wide web, you’re probably trying to compensate for something you don’t have. Things aren’t always what they seem; just like when people look perfect and happy in pictures, but you don’t know what goes on behind closed doors.

But at least they are trying to post positive stuff I guess??? You could do the same with your life but make it kinda humorous “OMG I just ate the most AMAZING microwaveable dinner in the world. THANK you to my awesome fiance for going to the trouble and heating it up for me. I LOVE YOU!!!”

Post # 13
3943 posts
Honey bee

Ya, the people I know who put mushy things with their SO are the ones that have the worst relationships. For example, a good friend of mine is in a serious abusive relationship, but looking at their facebook you would think they were the perfect couple.

I do get jealous of seeing peoples vacation pictures, but that is just because I wish I could travel as a full time job! 🙂 Be thankful for what you do have.

Post # 14
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I get FB disgust as well!  In fact, I have taken to hiding friends who constantly gush about their perfect lives.  I just can’t believe that anyone is that happy…all the time.

Here’s something that might help.  I recently read an article that talked about FB and how people who post all the time are more likely to be very insecure.  FB is a way for these types of people to build some self esteem. 


Post # 15
4676 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have a few people who do not work and I think sit on FB ALL day…  and I feel So sorry for them and there going nowhere lives….  Alot of my FB friends are slowly abandoning it, so it feels like it is only these people posting… 

Post # 16
925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@pinkshoes: Agreed. Do you need to post publicly how you think you have the best husband/wife/gf/bf in the world? Why can’t you just tell them when you see them later??

I have to admit, I don’t normally post when Darling Husband does things for me, but he sent me flowers at work on our 1 month wedding anniversary and I had to post a picture of them–only because 4 girls had done it in the weeks before that! I felt like I had a right to brag if they do. Yeah, it was kind of out of spite, which is wrong, but I just had to do it because of that!

But yes, it did really get me down in those last months of waiting when it seemed like EVERYONE was getting engaged except me. And now we’ve moved into baby land…seriously, in the past 2 weeks there have been at least 4 pregnancy announcements. Keep me away from that water!!!

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