(Closed) Does Facebook ever get you down??

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Gemstone: But I think it’s really important to remember that how someone’s life appears on Facebook is how they choose to portray their life. They’re going to post and display want they want in order to make their life look a certain way. It’s certainly a skewed perspective, and I just try to remember that whenever I’m on there.

This. I totally agree.

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

ok first of all try and remember that facebook is the place where you make your life seem like what you really want it to be lol. I have friends that post stuff like that and i happen to know that while yes they are a stay at home mom, their SO cheats regularly and everyone knows it, including her, also they arent married so that she cn still get food stamps and they fight every other day in the worst kind of way. So when i see statuses like the ones you are mentioning I take em with a grain of salt because you just never know what the whole truth is.

I did once have FB envy though over this girl i went to high school with. She ended up moving to LA and had some fancy job where she was working on photo shoots with celebs and was doing styling for them and was just always doing something so fun and interesting. She would post pictures and stuff and get people small gigs helping out on set and stuff too. The thing is though she is a genuinely sweet person and always has been. I basically wanted her life.

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wouldn’t say it gets me down, but it annoys me at times.  Bitches be crazy.  All I’m going to say.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@BusinessBride: Totally agree.  Things are not always what they seem, and people who are constantly posting about how perfect their lives are still have problems; they just don’t broadcast them.  Everyone has both good things and bad things going on, so I think it’s important to focus on what you have!

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Merelton: Exactly!  It’s fun to SOMETIMES share sweet things your SO does for you, and of course it’s natural to want to broadcast genuinely great things that happen…  But posting all the time about every little thing (good or bad)?  Seems like an insecure person wanting validation and praise…  Genuinely happy people are too busy being genuinely happy to think about FB all the time….

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i hate it. i hate my sister’s new house on one acre of land and how perfect it looks in all her facebook pictures and i hate my cousin’s new house and how the fixing up inside is coming alone perfectly. and i hate how everybody is pregnant. and i hate everyone’s little mentions to each other about their little visits and nights out while i’m stuck working my ass off night after night and it gets me nowhere… ooh a teeny apartment while everyone else has big beautiful houses that they show off on facebook.

 

yeah the green eyed monster has taken possession of me and makes facebook miserable.

Post # 23
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Busy Beekeeper

No. If people’s lives were as perfect and full as they appear on facebook, they wouldn’t be advertising it 90 times a day, they’d be out living it.

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It doesn’t really get me down. I take everything on FB with a grain of salt.

I wonder *why* does this person need to share with the world that their SO/FI/DH loves them?

I feel like a lot of the time when that is posted it is because people need everyone else to validate their relationship for them.

When people post all the time on FB about their “perfect” relationship I feel like either they are highly insecure or something is really not all that great.

I *do* however get a bit jealous when I see people’s vacation pictures. Especially if they are posting gorgeous beach photos when I’m sitting here in the cold and dreary London winter.

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper

Nope, doesn’t make me jealous in the slightest. I love my OH and we have a great relationship; we don’t feel the need to advertise this on facebook to all and sundry, and TBH, I think people who are continually posting soppy statuses about how great their relationships are, are pretty insecure in most cases. If things are so great, why not just enjoy it, or tell your OH? Why feel the need to tell everyone on your friend’s list?..

I’ve posted a grand total of 2 soppy statuses on FB: one when we got engaged (which read: ‘Can’t quite believe me an A are engaged! Don’t normally do soppy statuses, but love you A, and love my beautiful ring!’), and another recently on our 6 year ‘anniversary’. That’s it. The engagement I wanted to mark/let people know about, and I felt that 6 years was noteworthy. But I do not feel the need to post from a restaurant saying ‘Out having dinner with my amazing OH’; or ‘A just bought me flowers, he’s so sweet!’. To me that seems a bit immature and like you have something to prove.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sometimes although I think facebook is some people’s way to appear 99% happy. No one is really (ok maybe but honestly probably not..) post sucky updates like ‘FH and I just argued and I’ve been crying all day’ or ‘I think I may lose my job’, stuff like that.  

IMO, Facebook is a digital extension of yourself, an online world of your own YOU can control and feel better about yourself in the process. 

 I don’t post much because I don’t feel anyone would honestly CARE to know what I’m doing every day, don’t want to seem like I am bragging if it’s something awesome, don’t want to put other’s down etc. I think the way I was raised to not flaunt myself and consider others has pretty much stifled my facebook experience. 😉 

 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee

People’s lives on FB are as perfect as they make them. People post only what they want other’s to know about them. Often, the overcompensation for one’s life is an out for a not-so-perfect existence. No one’s life is that perfect so don’t get down about it.

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

FB is such drama anymore. I love feeling connected to busy friends in being able to read about their lives and see their pics of weddings, babies etc but I absolutly HATE when people complain in every one of their statuses!! I hate the people who are like OH im so done with people walking all oover me blah blah blah but then 2 days later are complaining about the same things. Or I really HATE the people who post 10 times a day sappy love song quotes. Ok one is kinda cute but 10?! no need to clog up my newsfeed with your 3 paragraph long love song quote! Ha Ha! After this comment, I am feeling the need to stay away from FB for a while!

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

People are Facebook “tough” and “happy”.  Way it goes.  Easier to act than to actually show. I really do despise people that think they’re better than others.  Flaunting on Facebook = lame.

Only reason I stay on Facebook is because of my grandmother.  She loves to chat with me, but this thread is making me consider de-activating it again.

Post # 31
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Busy bee

@Legallyblondiebride: i see where you’re coming from but don’t beat yourself up over it or get too jealous because i read a status one time that was so true which said facebook has a way of making everyone’s life look perfect.. if you looked thru my pics and all the cute things my Fiance writes to me on facebook you’d think my life is perfect but it’s far from it.. I love my life but it is not perfect plus on FB you choose what you get to share.. so obviously most people only share the good things that happens to them.. I share when my Fiance does something cute for me but I’m not updating my status when we get into a fight or when he does something I dislike..

the grass ISN’T always greener on the other side 😉

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