(Closed) Does FH come to bridal shower?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Does FH have to attend the ladies/family bridal shower?
    No : (16 votes)
    64 %
    Yes : (6 votes)
    24 %
    No, but he needs to sign the thank you's : (3 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    2247 posts
    Buzzing bee

    He is actually not supposed to come to the ladies shower.  It is not typical for a man to attend those, just like it’s not typical for a man to go to a baby shower.

    Post # 4
    624 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    From all the showers I have been to, he shows up at the end. Like the last 30 minutes or so. That way he can see what we received and thank everyone.

    Post # 5
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

    Oops. I meant to vote no, but I hit the wrong button. Just subtract 1 vote from yes and put it in no.

    @Pinksapphire: Ditto.

    Post # 7
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee

    The only time I’ve seen the Fiance at the shower is either when he’s dropping off his bride-to-be, or picking her and the gifts up. Otherwise, no. It’s a ladies get-together, who would want their Fiance there or to have him put up with all of it??

    ETA: for the invite, I’ve usually seen:

    Bridal Shower in honor of TheMrs.

    Bride-Elect of TheMr.

    …or something along those lines.

    Post # 8
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Where I’m from, normally the groom comes towards the end of the shower to thank everyone and do the manual labor (load the gifts). Especially considering there will be family there, I think it’s a nice gesture for your husband-to-be to personally thank the guests for their generous gifts.

    My shower was on Saturday and Fiance brought me a gorgeous bouquet of flowers that all of the women seriously died over. If he’s looking for brownie points, that’ll do it!

    Post # 9
    2095 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think times are changing. I have been to quite a few showers where both were expected to be there. In fact FI’s family threw me a shower Sunday that was joint bridal/baby and I expected him to be there.

    My Bridal shower that my family threw was all women. I think it all depends on the shower itself.


    Post # 10
    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Your Fiance doesn’t have to go to the shower unless he wants to. In recent weddings I’ve been to some men opted to go to their showers to help open gifts. At my cousin’s shower it made a little more sense having him there since one of the bridal shower games involved answering trivia about both the bride and groom. 

    At most showers the groom is only required to show up at the end to thank everyone and to help load up the gifts to take home. I would like it if my Fiance goes to my bridal shower since I hate being the center of attention. I’m just going to suck it up since it’s not traditional and I don’t want him to feel uncomfortable.

    Post # 11
    753 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My Fiance came at the end of mine to thank people and help me with the gifts.  That seems pretty standard where I am from.

    Post # 12
    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I said “No, but he should sign the thank-yous”. Generally the gifts given are for the couple, not just the woman anymore, so they should both sign the thank-yous, though it still seems standard for the man not to attend the majority of the shower. All of the ones I’ve been to, the groom (in addition to the husbands/boyfriends of some of the close family attendees) has shown up in the last 30-45 minutes to see everyone and thank everyone, and help clean up and load gifts. That’s probably how we’ll do ours.

    Post # 13
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My husband didn’t come and didn’t show up at the end either – I’ve never even heard of that! At the other 3 bridal showers I’ve been to, the guy didn’t show up at the end. I guess it depends on where your bridal shower is. My bridal shower was about an hour away from our home so it would have been ridiculous for my husband to drive all that way to just say hi to some people and load up gifts.

    Post # 14
    3049 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    My Fiance never came to any of my showers. He didn’t show up at the end to do gifts… I was on my own for that 🙂 And I didn’t sign thank-you’s as if he was writing them as well. I felt that for myy shower, I should sign the thank you’s, especially since I mentioned fun things we did during the shower. For the wedding, I signed thank-you’s as if he was writing them. I felt weird/awkward about it, because he definitely didn’t write a dang thing, but oh well 🙂

    Post # 15
    117 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    It’s up to him. If he feel comfortable being there he can be there but he doesn’t have to be. Although it’s nice if he wants to come say hi towards the end.

    Post # 16
    46382 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I personally would rather he showed up only at the end to help the bride transport the gifts.

    I think most women are more comfortable with only the “girls” unless the shower is clearly a couples shower. Ditto for the grooms- they just seem so awkward.


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