Does he have a drinking problem or am I being sensitive?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Does he have a problem?
    Yes, absolutely : (97 votes)
    90 %
    I wouldnt call it a problem : (9 votes)
    8 %
    Not really : (1 votes)
    1 %
    No : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 31
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    Bumble bee

    Bottom line: he needs to follow through therapy or you need to bail. 

    Post # 32
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    149 posts
    Blushing bee

    sassy411 :  

    true and they often do co-exist.  I sometimes suspected my ex had bipolar also.  Problem with narcissists is they never think anything is wrong with them and won’t seek treatment.

    Post # 33
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    702 posts
    Busy bee

    I would never be in a relationship with an unmedicated bipolar disorder sufferer. Medicated? Absoutely. But unmedicated? Hell no. Just wait and see what happens as his mood swings get worse and his drinking increases. You need to have a serious talk with him like yesterday about medication and his alcohol use. 

    Post # 34
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2016

    The fact that he’s got a diagnosed mental health disorder and isn’t actively managing it should be a deal breaker for you- not the mention the fact that his (dumbass) solution is alcohol instead.

    Also- as soon as my (possibly) alcoholic, mentally ill boyfriend had the nerve to tell me he thought he was smarter than the therapists he’d met, I would have started planning my exit. He sounds like a whole lot of energy and effort to deal with.

    Post # 35
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    abnihon :  

    Definitely true.  Bipolars are often resistant to the idea of treatment as well.

    And then there’s the alcohol problem.

    Post # 36
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    Buzzing bee

     

    MrsBuesleBee :  “don’t marry a project.”

    Hands down the best advice I’ve ever read on the Bee.

    Post # 37
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    983 posts
    Busy bee

    Exactly! Do not marry a project. You will set yourself up for heartache and disappointment.

    my sons father was undiagnosed/ untreated bipolar that self medicated with alcohol.

    i could write a book on crap he did to us. I tried dragging him to doctors, therapists, etc. He always blamed me and thought he was fine. 

    He is married now, and seems to be fine. So either he puts his wife through hell, or she got him to get help. But either way he has not broken into my home or abused our son in 3 years… so whatever he is doing is fine with me.

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