(Closed) Does he have any say in what you are wearing for the wedding? Do you

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I pretty much gave control of what Fiance is wearing to him, but I did tell him that he needs to wear a purple tie of some sort and I’ll probably be the one deciding on the bout. He doesn’t have any say in what I wear, but I do value his opinion of what looks nice so I try to get his opinion on some things.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I know I can have a say in what he and the groomsmen are wearing, but I’d rather he just decides. Besides, he wants to. He doesn’t really have any say in what I’m wearing, since I’m not going to show him, but we have gone through some dress pictures together and I do know what he likes.. so in a way, he does!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

He actually helped pick my dress out but he didn’t see me in it until the day of the wedding. As for me…I didn’t really want him in a white tux but he loved the idea of him, our son, and me all in white so I agreed and bought a mini white tux for our son. I let him help with a lot of the decisions because he actually wanted to help.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We agreed on certain silhouettes and details of gowns. But I didnt want him to see me in a wedding gown at all. I didn’t want him to have ANY idea of what I may look like as his bride; maybe im just a dorkus. 

For he & his men, I guess I had a vision and he just so happened to really like it. 

He’s buying a black suit, but will wear an ivory vest/tie with a black dress shirt. Groomsmen will be wearing just black slacks/vests and we are getting them charcoal dress shirts. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

he has no say in what I wear.. however I have given him opinions on his attire 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

He didn’t have a say in my dress and I didn’t want–in theory–to have a say in his either, but I think i’ve talked up my idea of what he should wear so much that its grown on him. Still, I feel a little guilty that I talked him out of the color suit he wanted–it’s his wedding! For me, any other color would have been better

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’ve asked him what he thought about a few dresses and showed him what I like for gm but really he has no say in what I wear and I have no say in what he and his men wear. so we’ll both be surprised to see how dapper the other looks!!!!

Post # 10
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Honey bee

No to both. He isn’t wearing my dress and I’m not wearing his suit. Plus, it’s way too controlling for either party to consider such a thing.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

He didn’t have any say in my dress (and he wouldn’t have wanted to), but I did help him with his tux.  He is not into shopping or fashion.  He is the worst shopper. lol  If I left it up to him he would have picked out what he was wearing in 2 minutes because he hates shopping (and it probably would have been a disaster lol!), so I did go with him only to answer questions they would ask him that he wouldn’t know.  He picked everything out on his own though.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sure, he has some input about my dress, though mostly he likes the type of thing I’m into, and he has said that I’m welcome to have some input into what he wears. He worked in a tux shop back in the day, so my only concern is making sure he doesn’t gravitate toward something that was in style then!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We talked a bit before I went dress shopping. Neither of us really like strapless gowns for me so that was easy enough. He also said he wouldn’t be able to take me seriously on the wedding day in a big poofy ballgown…again, I didn’t want that either so we were totally in agreement!

I just gave him input on the color of the bridesmaids’ dresses so that he could coordinate, but the actual picking out of the suit was up to him.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Fiance and I both agreed that he isn’t going to see any of my attire until the moment I walk down the aisle.  I on the other hand will have to give at least a little bit of advice to Fiance since my dress is not “white”.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

We have similar tastes; he doesn’t like big dresses with puffy skirts, and nor do I, so I think he’ll like my dress (lace mermaid dress). My only worry with my dress is it has a tiny bit of bling on it (some crystals and tiny pearl beads on the bodice), and I’m not sure what he’ll make of that; it makes the dress though I think (originally I didn’t want any bling at all, but the plain ones I tried on just felt too plain).

As far as what he’s wearing goes, I’ve technically given him free reign, but if he chose a morning suit or something similar, or tails/waistcoat/cravat, I’d have something to say lol. My ideal would be just a simple, classic, beuatifully made suit in grey. But it’s his day too, so ultimately it’s down to him..

Post # 16
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Busy bee

He didn’t have a say in what I wore, but he asked my opinion in what he chose for himself and the groomsmen.  I didn’t dictate what they wore, but I did give my opinion/ approval 🙂

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