(Closed) Does he know?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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5237 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

Have you actually talked to him about marriage? Are you on the same page about wanting to get married, and when? Have you each shared your expectations of marriage, and what it means for you? About what you think is important in a healthy relationship? What you think makes a “good marriage”?

I do not mean to sound harsh, but if you can’t TALK to your SO about your relationship and things like the above then you are no way near ready for marriage anyway. If you are really going to enter into what is “meant” to endure a lifetime (since a wedding is only marking the start of a marriage, it is not the marriage!), it should be with someone who truly is your life partner. Someone you can talk to, be open and authentic with, share honestly with (and all vice versa) and have full support, acceptance and so on with. 

Your partner certainly ought to know if you are “waiting and waiting for him to pop the question”, since you appear to be expecting him to pop the question!

Hinting about weddings is silly since weddings are not marriage.

 

Post # 4
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221 posts
Helper bee

Me and SO have openly communicated about when we would like to get married and when he will propose. We’ve both agreed on a timeline so that we both know what we want and so neither is frustrated or confused about waiting.

That doesn’t work for everyone though maybe instead of hinting you should have a disscusion with him about marriage and where he is at.

Post # 5
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965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

he does know, we don’t have timeline but I would like to think he’s going to propose this year though whoknows. he’s got a good reason so I’ll give him that. Why don’t you chat with your OH and get his opinions? try not to be forceful on the subject but make clear your interest. 

Post # 6
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Mine knows, and we had a huge chat about it all at the weekend which really helped me feel better. I think it’s worth talking to him and seeing where he is with it to help you settle a little.

Post # 9
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1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

He knows I am cause he is too! We’re waiting to get formally engaged until after I meet his parents this fall. We’ve spoken to my parents already but we are going to tell them this spring that we are ready to start planning quietly without the ring. Horse, cart, I know.

Post # 10
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356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Well considering that we went and designed the ring together he for sure knows I am waiting for the proposal 🙂 Even more so because he caught me on this “waiting” board last night, lol. We don’t really have a timeline but he knows that I am expecting it soon, like within the next couple of months. I have talked about a spring or early summer wedding in 2014, and that we need a year or so to plan, so I guess that is a soft timeline.

 

Good luck!

 

Post # 11
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105 posts
Blushing bee

He knows I’m waiting. I have been dropping hints, then just started openly communicating about it and now I know the proposal is coming soon(ish). So…now i’m trying not to bring it up because I think he wants to surprise me. But i’m not good at waiting! Like to keep things under tight control so this is kind of killing me.

Back to you: good you had the marriage talk already. Then you’re both on the same page. So now might be a good time to hint at you being ready to be engaged. Just hold back a little and don’t bring up the subject every change you get. Just now and again. He doesn’t magically know what you want, so you’ll have to be verbal about it.

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