(Closed) Does he know???

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes! but then I made him in charge of things. Once I did that he realized that everything has so many decisions involved and that takes talking and getting back to people and lots and lots and lots of time. Now he is 100% on board and gets it.

Post # 4
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I explained it to him and start planning anyway. Venues book fast around here and the one we booked was booked thorugh May of 2012 already!

Post # 5
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759 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

my FH doesnt realize it. and doesnt get why it took me 3 hours to design our invites…

im thinking that when it gets closer to the wedding and he gets more involved he will see just how much time goes into it and realize that iwasnt so crazy for starting so soon

Post # 6
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174 posts
Blushing bee

no. my man has no sense of time or planning or planning ahead for anything ever.  this is why he is late to everything, and why after 3.5 years he thinks we’re still just “dating”. 

he also for some reason has no sense of how much weddings cost.  somehow, he’s wanting a fairly formal wedding for like $5K.  whatever, dude.  it’s so strange, since he’s a finance guy — he should have a better sense of how much stuff costs.

Post # 7
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1088 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think my SO realizes just how much time goes into planning a wedding.  He’s amazed at how much time I can spend on the bee.  🙂

Post # 8
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1390 posts
Bumble bee

Mine did not. He does now. I was looking at dresses one day and I mentioned in passing that you had to order at least 6 months in advance. He was shocked. I explained how long everything takes….and how much longer it takes for a destination wedding. He had no idea. None. I swear, I had told him before but maybe he just wasn’t paying attention. He got on his horse after that because he realized it’d be 3 years before our wedding if he waited much longer.

Post # 9
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3378 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

No, he has no clue about anything wedding related.  He doesn’t even know where to go look for rings, he had to ask me today when we were talking about going ring shopping over winter break.  All he had to contribute was “My friend Stu told me he has a guy – in Tampa.”  I was like “We live in Ohio!”  I think if the proposal doesn’t happen by New Years we’ll have to have the discussion of just how long planning takes, because I would really like us to get married December 2011 (otherwise it can’t happen until summer 2012 because of school schedules).

Post # 10
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

Nope, he has no idea. I want and we talked about getting married next October, but I really want Sept. 10th, not even for the cool date, but because I have a week off for our school system’s fall break and that is the only time I can get off work. 🙁

He doesn’t really understand how long things take to book up, but I’m willing to let it go. I used to be high strung about it, but I decided to let it go. Long as it’s a destination wedding and we get cute invites and I get my dress, whatever! *shrug* I’m so stubborn, I’ll let it all end on him when he doesn’t get what he wants.LOL

Post # 11
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47 posts
Newbee

Makes me giggle as my Boyfriend or Best Friend has reminded ME about the time involved in planning a wedding! He’s told me that next year I will be working on planning the wedding which will take considerable time! 

Post # 12
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1543 posts
Bumble bee

@MsMamaBear:Haha, 9-10-11, nice!

Yeah, they have absolutely noooo clue regarding planning or budgets! We went to a wedding a couple of months ago, and he referred to it as ‘fancy and all-out’. Ha! It was about 150 ppl, with an open bar for cocktail hour, and a photo booth. Those were the only things, ‘all-out’ about it. Again, ha! The venue, food, dj, decor etc. were all standard wedding fare, and nothing ‘fancy’ by any means. (I’m not bashing, it was all great, really) I felt like showing him some of David Tutera’s work, but figured he would have a heart attack, lmao!

In the same convo, after a few leading questions from me, he said he envisioned us being/getting married in ‘a year or so.’ Ummmm, really? Get yo’ ass in gear, boy! lol

Post # 14
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57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Good news and bad news… The bad news is that he probably doesn’t know. The good news is you can plan a wedding in less than a year! We got engaged in April of this year and we are already hitched (10-17-2010)! I had a great wedding! I will say that to get the venue you want you might have to get married on a Friday or Sunday BUT it’s cheaper so that will help your budget! We got the venue we wanted but we got married on a Sunday. I loved my wedding! I wouldn’t have changed anything! (I will be 35 next year too!)

Hang in there girlie!

Post # 15
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302 posts
Helper bee

I feel like boys just dont understand the time it takes to plan it.  Everything takes time, and not only that but if you don’t reserve things with enough time, you won’t get them. I also think boys don’t get how it feels to see other people who are planning their weddings plan the things you wanted to do.  A few days ago I saw a girl’s dress (girl is Fiance of a friend) and she has almost the exact dress I wanted to get! If Boyfriend or Best Friend wasnt making me wait over 5 years, I wouldnt be stressing, but now I feel like every time someone in our group does what I was planning on doing I am going to look more like a copycat (even though I wanted to do these things before I saw them do them). It is REALLY frustrating and I tried to tell him about it but he just didnt get it 🙁

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Ehhh sometimes. I have more of a problem making my SO understand how important the wedding (reception) itself is! He always needs to know why everything must be perfect. For example, the invites. I try to explain to him it is important they look perfect since that is the first thing people see that represnt the wedding. He just doesn’t get it! BLAHHH!

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