Post # 1
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Newbee
My fiance has been very very helpful in stating what he likes and doesnt like when it comes to planning the wedding and puchasing items, but sometimes, I feel like he doesnt care. I was going over the invite list, and he was making smart ass comments about some of the people that I had on the list! I felt offended, and I kind of threw a fit, and then wouldnt talk about it anymore. We both have just kind of blown it off, but there are times during this planning that I feel like he doesnt care. Does anyone else feel that way!??
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
i remember i had a meltdown with my then Fiance over a shade of blue for the invites because i wanted him to be excited about it (paper stuff excites me) and he would say its just blue paper, i dont care. i think there are some things guys just dont care about and others they are very much interested in 🙂
Post # 4
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Busy bee
Sometimes this same thing happens to me. I sit down with him to discuss something I deem important (recently it’s wedding stuff) and he makes jokes or doesn’t really answer my questions. We haven’t had any tiffs about it. Usually I just explain that I’m trying to get his input and it’s important to me- could he please communicate clearly with me… and then he snaps out of it.
But I know what you mean! I think sometimes things aren’t as important to them, or they can’t picture it in their head. For example, right now my FH and I are trying to decide on a photographer. When looking at their blogs he has made jokes about the pictures or nit-picked over tiny details. I had to tell him to just imagine us and all our details in the pictures for him to “get it.” Sometimes I think they don’t plan ahead or read so much into all the details- they just expect it will all work out.
Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
um. totally. but i think its a guy thing. its not that they dont care about the wedding or getting married. they just don’t care about the details as much we do. and i have come to learn to that if i dont want to get upset by his lack of interest, then i just wont ask for opinions on everything! i make some decisions by myself for the wedding and he is totally ok with that.
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