(Closed) Does he see me before the ceremony?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
14 posts
  • Wedding: December 2009

I have to agree with you in both aspects, how nice it would be to have your picture taken before the ceremony and that you want to see your fiance’s face when you walk down the aisle and he sees you for the first time. What I suggest you do is find out when the sun sets on your wedding date, and then see how long your ceremony would be. If that gives you enough time after the ceremony, I’d say go with that. Talk to your photographer about it and see what they say. I’m with you though, on taking pictures after the ceremony, when you are officially man & wife.

Post # 4
150 posts
Blushing bee

This was something I struggled with too.  I wanted to do the pics before the ceremony for convenience but my fiance was dead set on not seeing me until the ceremony.  Ours is an outdoor ceremony at 5 pm in September. 

We decided on not seeing each other until the ceremony.  We will have all the pictures of him with his groomsmen and family, and me with my family and bridesmaids done before the ceremony so after the ceremony we won’t have quite as many pictures to take.  I guess that is kind of a comprimise? 

You should be safe at 4 pm.  If it is not cloudy there will still be light after the sun goes down.  Those would make for some really nice pictures!  Here is a link that lists historical sunset times:




Post # 5
4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

That’s something I’m wondering as well. I don’t know whether to go back on tradition or not. I don’t want to miss half of my reception just for photos, though. (I’ve seen that happen before! No fun).


I think you’ll have enough light in October if you take it after the ceremony.

@cmk1215- I think splitting it up like that is a good idea. You can still keep the tradition by getting a lot of the pictures out of the way beforehand and then the ones together afterwards.

Post # 7
2144 posts
Buzzing bee

Yup, we fought with ourselves about this. We both wanted to wait until the ceremony, but ours wasn’t until 6:00! I wanted to get our moneys worth of the photographer. Sooo, we did photos before hand. We did do a reveal moment though so that we still were able to capture our first look at each other



Post # 8
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m thinking about having a “first look” photo op before the ceremony. We’re not the most lovey-dovey PDA people and I like the idea of having that moment just between us (and the photographer). In fact, my favorite part of the proposal was that we were on vacation and no one but us knew about it until we got home 2 days later.

But if the tradition is important to you, you can make it work. It sounds like you’ll be fine; worst case scenario, maybe you’d end up with some beautiful autumn sunset shots. And the idea of splitting up the family photos is a great one.

Post # 9
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

It depends on what traditions you’re talking about. 😉 We’re doing a ketubah signing prior to the ceremony, so, traditionally, the bride and groom see each other before the walk down the aisle!

I would do it. Just make sure your photographer is there to still get that first look!

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