(Closed) Does he threaten to not marry you?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 76
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223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Is your Fiance unemployed or are you working a higher paying job? If so, I can understand why he hasn’t been able to contribute. Since none of us know your situation, it’s difficult to judge whether or not he’s being cheap or he simply isn’t able to help pay for the wedding. My Fiance is a civil engineer and I’m a writer; from the beginning, he said he would pay for the majority of the wedding because obviously I can’t afford to pay as much. That being said, I have helped as much as I can, and still set aside money every paycheck for our wedding.

I think you need to talk to your Fiance about what you’re feeling- it is not healthy or normal to threaten to not marry someone, no matter how angry you are. That’s no excuse for emotionally abusing your SO. My Fiance always tell me the exact opposite: he is so excited and happy to marry me and I feel the same way. That’s the way it should be. If you two are already having such heated arguments before getting married, then imagine how much worse things will be AFTER you’re married. I know you’ve spent a lot of money on this already, but some vendors may give you at least a portion of your money back if you contact them in time. Try to stay strong and remember that there are other much kinder, sweeter men out there!

Post # 77
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5200 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Is there any way you can take an ad out for a sexy, fun man with good employment seeking a great woman, wedding paid for, September 2016? I’m sure he will be better than your fiance. 

Post # 78
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3902 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Just. NO.

Post # 79
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8988 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

leilarobs2:  

NO! That’s unacceptable! His cheap ass isn’t doing you some kind of favor by marrying you! Give this some serious thought before proceeding any further

Dear OP this is the sanest  thing anyone could say to  you , do listen,  sad though it must be for you .

 

 

Post # 80
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2699 posts
Sugar bee

elderbee:  Raw and uncut version Leila really should work on being more tactful and eloquent.

Post # 81
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836 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

None of this is normal. Save yourself the last shred of dignity that you have left and funnel that wedding money into a lawyer fund. You need your half of the house or at least the money from it. I’m so sorry

Post # 82
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4243 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

That is manipulative.  My husband NEVER threatened with “I won’t marry you”.  The fact that he is making you pay for this all too is so ridiculous.  You would do yourself a HUGE favor by ACTUALLY not marrying him.

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