Post # 1
It does to me. Usually when females who have or are pregnant do I let it slide off. Which I have been lucky most females in my life are encouraging.
But two male co-workers make comments often. I usually just make a snide remark and ignore them.
Our baby, our choice. Your baby, your choice. I don’t make comments to you about the choices your wife made during pregnancy so leave me alone.
Anddd you’ve never nor will ever be pregnant!!!
Case in point:I have made the decision not to consume caffeine regularly during pregnancy. Only every now and then from tea, chocolate or decaf and the 2.5 cans of Coke thus far.My co-worker’s comment is there is nothing wrong with having coffee during pregnancy. Yes, smart ass. I know there’s nothing wrong with it. I just personally choose not to.
I know plenty of pregnant woman who choose to drink coffee or are thinking of it and I remind them that it’s totally fine to drink up to 200/300mg a day. It’s just not for me.
ETA: Oops, Move to pregnancy please?
Post # 3
It bothers me when anyone makes judgey comments to me about my pregnancy/birthing choices, but yes, it does bother me more when men do it. It seems like, with my co-workers at least, the men are the most vocal, too!
Post # 4
@regberadaisy: I wonder if men comment on things, just to make it known that they know about pregnancy. A way to fit in for instance.
Post # 5
I’ve been trying really hard to not share things with people, to avoid comments. But I did have a coworker ask what I thought about doulas, which I thought was a weird question. My answer was “don’t really know.” I think it was more out of curiosity, because he didn’t seem to know what a doula did, but the way he asked it made it seem like he thought they were only for hippie, earth-mother types.
Post # 6
Interesting point. With my two co-workers I just think they are overall know it alls.
Ugh. And I hate their stupid comments about “X is not in a good mood today” ever since I’m pregnant. Really? I’m in a perfectly good mood, ever thought maybe it’s YOU that puts me in a bad mood?
Post # 7
It annoys me when anyone tries to give me tips or comments on how “big” I am (and surprisingly, this comes mostly from women…) My view is if I’m not asking for your opinion, I don’t want to hear it!
Post # 8
@regberadaisy: And I hate their stupid comments about “X is not in a good mood today” ever since I’m pregnant.
I get this from my mom (since I work for/with her)…. I’ll be in a great mood, be feeling good that day, and if I don’t react all sunshines & daisy to her off attitude or possibly outrageous request (b/c she’s known for doing that) she makes a remarks about me “walking in with that bad mood” or that something else MUST be wrong.
I hate it! lol
Post # 9
I think to some extent men just want to be involved and don’t know how to relate. I work with one young male CNA who asks me how I’m feeling every single night and runs to the gas station to get snacks and is always so sweet about getting me something I’m craving. In his mind that’s how you treat a pregnant lady, perhaps others think pregnant women love to talk about all the things they aren’t allowed to eat anymore? haha
I think it probably annoys me more coming from women because I feel like it’s saying “I was soooo great at being pregnant, and here’s what I think of your decisions.” Where men are just talking out of their butts.
Post # 10
@runsyellowlites: Haha omgosh I would hurt someone if they said that to me!!! That is the perfect way to PUT someone in a bad mood if they weren’t already
Post # 11
I’m an engineering student and had a fellow engineering student (male) tell me that 1). my baby will HATE me for having a career, and 2). I won’t ever amount to anything in the field, because I will have a child. I didn’t even ask him for his opinion! ( I’m not showing yet, so I haven’t had any more comments about my mood, choices, etc. I’m sure they’ll come though! MEN! I’m very glad I found my Darling Husband and not one of these jerks!