Does it get easier?

posted 3 months ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m so sorry bee – I had an mmc at 10 weeks. It really sucks. It eases though and for me finding out how common mcs are in general made me feel better to some degree. Someone on these boards posted that a miscarriage is just your body deciding it can give a baby a better start and so it tries again. I went on the have a perfect little boy and – I know this is just me probably – but I feel like it’s the same baby just in a better body,  a better start. This is kind of a spiritual perspective and I know that not everyone will agree but it helped me a lot. Hugs to to you!!!

Post # 3
9686 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry for your loss. cry I have been through it twice, 9 weeks and 11 weeks.  It gets better with time, but allow yourself to grieve the loss of your pregnancy.  Give your body time to heal if you want to try again sometime.  I coped with it each time by thinking of my baby waiting to meet me one day, in heaven.  It might sound silly but I believe in that and it did help me.  I cried a lot.  It hurts, it’s a death, it takes time to heal, in more ways than one.  

Post # 4
76 posts
Worker bee

 A miscarriage is a death which requires grieving.  The grieving processes normally takes a year.  I can say from experience (miscarriage at 6 weeks).  It took months.  Even at the one year mark I grieved.  All the major milestones, due date, etc. you will find yourself grieving.  You grieve not for the memories made but for the memories you will not be able to make with your baby.  What helped me was knowing that the first time they opened their little eyes they saw Jesus, and what a beautiful gift that would be.  Don’t let yourself feel bad for grieving and don’t let yourself feel bad for the moments you aren’t grieving. 

Post # 5
2156 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I had a mc last year around Mother’s Day. It is HARD (I bawled my eyes out on Mother’s Day) but it does get better with time. Be kind to yourself and let yourself feel whatever it is you are feeling. We planted tulips in memory of our lost little one and that helped for me. i am now 24 weeks pregnant with our rainbow baby so keep the faith my friend. Very sorry you are going through this. 

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