- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
Hubby and I have been married for almost three months now and everything is wonderful! I met him after relocating from the west coast to the east coast 3 years ago and due to scheduling, finances and other commitments have not been back to visit friends there since I moved.
Hubby has spoken on the phone with several of my west coast friends and a few even came to the wedding. The ones who are like second parents to me were unable to make it to the wedding, so we promised we’d get out there to visit them at some point soon.
Well, Hubby did a really nice thing and booked a 4 day trip for us in April to go visit “Second Mom” & the family! He arranged with her for us to stay at their house (which I always did in the past since they lived about 100 miles from me) and have a party with several of my old friends and of course, all of her family. It was really sweet of him & should’ve been a nice surprise for me but there’s one thing that is worrying me… I dated “Second Mom’s” nephew (let’s call him Bill) for a while a few years ago. I had just split up with my first husband and his mom & his aunt set out to do some matchmaking. We dated for about 6 months and it ended okay—no drama, no heartbreak, but he tried to start things up again more than once and I declined. I remained very close to all of his family members and was polite when we interacted after that.
Hubby is aware that I dated Bill & even knows that I slept with him twice. I’m just concerned because I’m afraid it might be awkward (it’ll be the first time two men I’ve dated have ever interacted). and that if Bill has too much to drink he might say something inappropriate about our past or hit on me, etc & Hubby will feel insulted and want to “defend my honor.” (Bill tends to party quite a bit and lives 3 houses down from Second Mom so has no problem drinking too much & either spending the night there or just walking home).
Anyone else ever been in a similar situation? If so, how did you handle it and how did it go?