Post # 1
My situation is im having a Destination Wedding 7/21, but could only invite close family/friends.
I’m having a hometown reception when I get back on 8/18 and invited all of my nearest and dearest and losts of people who couldn’t make it, but it takes place a month after the actual wedding, so my showers are quite in advance of the hometown reception (June 9th & 16th respectively) and so a few people who we couldn’t invited to the Destination Wedding, may get shower invites before they get a reception invite (I think my Moh is sending them out early next month). If I sent the reception invites out before the shower invites, then the reception invites would be going out 3 months in advance!
Everywhere I read says it doesn’t really matter, so long as everyone gets an invite eventually.
What say you?
Post # 3
I don’t think I’d invite anybody to a shower that wasn’t at least extended the option to attend the dw, but to answer your question I’d say that if you’re going tongi ahead and invite people who are only invited to the hometown reception to your shower, I’d either make sure they go out after the reception invites or make it very obvious by word of mouth that there will be a reception invite to follow just to avoid guestsassuming they’re only invited to a shower.
Post # 4
yeah, I see your point, but I did tell them verbally that I was requesting their addresses so that I could invite them to the reception personally. Unfortunatly, the time issue makes it a little complicated.
Personally, I’ve definetly gotten shower invites before wedding/reception invites…and I always do watch and wait for that wedding invite…but it always does arrive, usually just before the shower takes place. But I wouldn’t assume they were just tryna get a gift out of me. lol. I wonder who really would do that?? lol. I’m sure some people.
And I had to keep the Destination Wedding wedding small. It just wasn’t feasible to have a large guestlist for that, we had to keep it intimate and simple. I wanted to find a way to celebrate with everyone I care about when I return, and this was the only way I could work out that didn’t break the bank.
Post # 5
For my first wedding, I did not do Save-The-Date Cards but everyone invited to the showers knew we were getting married. My showers were WELL before I sent out the invites. I want to say the showers were 8 weeks before the wedding so the invites for those went out 10 weeks before the wedding…the wedding invites went out 6 weeks before the wedding.
Post # 6
My shower invites went out this past week and my wedding invites won’t go out til next month. I think it is pretty common for shower invites to go out before your invites.
Post # 7
Shower invites are usually always sent out before wedding invites, as the shower will take place before the wedding/reception.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2011 - St Aloysius' College, Milson's Point
We made sure that our wedding invitations went out before, but with your timing situation I would suggest ensuring that everyone is more than aware of the post-wedding at home reception. Even overly mentioning at the shower. It is best to over inform people rather than not! Dont want anyone thinking they are only invited to the shower.
Post # 9
Thanks..yes, I will make sure everyone knows they are getting one. I wouldn’t dream of inviting people to a shower without inviting them to celebrate the marriage at the reception.
Post # 10
We didn’t have a Destination Wedding, but I got married over 1000 miles from where my parents and most of my family lives, so we also had another large reception in my home state (we had as many people at the reception as at the wedding!). Several of the people invited to the reception were not invited to the wedding itself, but were invited to the shower.
My mom’s friends threw my shower and it was so hard to find a time I could travel for it, so we ended up having it in July for our December wedding! It didn’t end up being a big deal, and no one was offended 🙂
Post # 11
I think it’s fine to send the shower invites before the wedding invites. We did Save-The-Date Cards which went out about a month ago, shower invites will go out this week, and wedding invites will go out early July.
Post # 12
Mine went out really close to the same time. I didnt really have control over my shower invitations, since it is hosted by my mom/aunt/MOH. I dont think anyone had a problem with it!
Post # 13
I think it’s fine. I have always received shower invitations before wedding invitations.
Mine are being sent out this weekend but the wedding invitations won’t go out for another 2 months.