Post # 1
We thought we found the perfect venue and I started planning a beach theme wedding with colors of tiffany blue and light & dark brown accents, and pure white starfish, shells, and sand – before we even booked the place. I was sure it would all fit together perfectly.
Well a month ago we realized we were way in over our heads budget-wise. We had to scale back a lot and that definitely included the venue we had picked out. We found a couple other places that we really like and that will save us about $1000. The problem is the two main contenders are both very rustic and country with floor to ceiling knotted wood and logs. One of the places even has huge black iron wheels hung from the ceiling rafters that surround each light.
The problem is I can’t picture by beach blue wedding at those places at all anymore. Even my normally opinion-less and laidback fiancée wasn’t so sure about my beach theme fitting in there. One of the places doesn’t even allow candles so there goes half my centerpieces. My mom says that no one will notice the walls and décor of the venue but I’m not so sure. How could you not notice? I’ve only spent about $200 on the beach décor and I probably could return at least $150 worth of the things I haven’t opened or used.
Should I change my theme or is my mom right when she said that no one will notice that the building doesn’t go with the beach?
Sorry it’s a bit long but thanks for the input in advance! 🙂
Post # 3
Hmm… that’s tough. From how you described both the new locations and your current theme I think it might be challenging to get it to look 100% cohesive, BUT if you love the new places AND the beach theme, and you have the time/patience to make them fit then go for it! It may take some creative figuring but I’d bet you can make either place look gorgeous! The wheels hanging from the ceiling could be challenging though. I doubt anyone would look at the lights to notice the wheels but if they do, oh well. 🙂 You could make the places look almost like a beach house with your decorations. Also, I’d double check with the location that says that you can’t have candles… mine said that too but when I described that I was putting them in glass globes and on trays with sides (so the wax doesn’t run all over) they were fine with it.
Will you be out a lot of money by switching locations or have you been able to find someone to take over the contract for you? Good luck and let us know what you decide! I’d LOVE to see pictures! 🙂
Post # 4
We didn’t put any money down for the original place so we aren’t out any money on the venue. Just the $200 or so I’ve spent on beach decor, most of which is returnable.
I can double check about the no-candle policy though.
I’m just not sure what to do yet about the theme 🙁
Post # 5
Is there another part of your budget that you can skimp back on to keep this venue? For me, the most important things was the venue and the photography. In my opinion, it doesn’t sound like it would work very well unless you paid more money to get more stuff to try to disguise everything, which doesn’t end up saving you any money anyway! Is there any way you can actually have a beach venue? Even if it costs a bit more, you’d save by not needing as many decorations because it’s already there! If your heart is set on the beach theme, you definitely need to keep it or else you’ll regret it! Good luck finding the perfect balance!
Post # 6
I love your theme ideas, but as you said the venue doen’t seem to really fit into that. I find it best to use the venue as an inspiration for your theme and color pallette. That will save you money by using what is already in place at the venue.
Maybe instead of a beach theme – as in ocean with sea shells and sand – maybe make it a summer lake beach cottage feel - that might go better with the rustic wood work and wheels hanging from the ceiling. Like working more with natural branches and flowers. Maybe using more light colored accents to brighten up all the wood work.
You could keep your same color sceme and just tweak the theme bit.
As far as the cadles – they don’t allow them at all? or just no open flame? You could also think about those little batery tea lights.
Post # 7
I think you can TOTALLY make it work! A rustic beachy wedding! Just try & incoorporate a teensy bit of rustic-ness into your beachy-ness! Like, if you could use twine on any candle holders, or put some on the starfish somehow. If you’re using sand, maybe use darker sand as opposed to white sugar sand. Like Cocoa beach sand vs Clearwater beach sand… Sorry, I live in Florida & had to do the comparison! I say it can totally be done!
Post # 8
I have the same theme. My venue doesn’t match a beach or a starfish but it fits our budget. We have red carpeting and red chairs and white linens. Hopefully my cake and centerpices and other decor will prevail.
Post # 9
I agree with FloridaMel… I think you can make it a rustic Beachy theme. As soon as I read her post so many thoughts had come to my head. I will see if I can come up with ideas for you… Try Googling, it may be you new best friend.
Post # 10
I think people won’t really notice the walls and such. I planned my whole color scheme and bought a bunch of decorations for my red and white wedding…then realized that the venue’s decorations were gold and blue. I spent a day agonizing over it, then realized that if it took ME that long to notice the venue’s color scheme, then no one was going to notice it at the five-hour reception. I think unconsciously your guests focus on what YOU did (centerpieces, cake table etc.) and not on the background.
Post # 11
By the way, I am kind of in the same boat. Our colors are black and white with red accents and our venue has these UGLY gold walls. According to friends and fam, it wasn’t going to interfere with our decor which helped me calm down a bit. I still cringe when I see them though, lol.
Post # 12
The same thing happened to me, i started planning a beachy wedding and then we changed venues (the lady at the other place was too hard to work with). We moved it to a state park lodge which is a pretty rustic building (think wood everywhere – huge fireplace, etc.). What i did was scale back the beacy, but I’m still incorporating a lot of the same stuff. Instead of vases, I’m using mason jars. Instead of sand castles, we’re using some wooden fish I found and fishing nets. I’m using shells in the centerpieces, but mixing in some river rocks. If you need more ideas, just let me know.
Post # 13
I like IA_Snowflake’s suggestion. If I were you I would definitely re-think the beach theme, as it would be kind of confusing. Maybe switch maritime places and go with lake fishing or something to keep it all. And candles can be any theme- check with the place again.
Post # 14
IA_SNowflake: That’s exactly what it is! It’s in a city park and it has a huge fireplace and and everything 🙂
I bought 12 of these unfinished wood little bird houses that are shaped like sand castles from Michael’s that I started painting with the sand-finish kind of spray paint. I only painted 2 or 3 so far so I am not sure what to do with them now. I could try to finish them and sell them or take the unfinished ones back to Michael’s…?
I love the mason jar idea and I definitely need to go more rustic.
Post # 15
What about trying to combine the themes? We’re having a wedding on the beach, but including rustic themes (deep brown, greens, branches) to represent where I come from. You could keep your colors, maybe incorporate some sand, but take away the very beachy things (starfish, shells, etc….).
Post # 16
It’s completely doable, just tweak it. Instead of the stereotypical beach wedding do the rustic, shipwreck beach wedding. Not literally shipwreck but as if things have been washed up on shore instead of picked straight out of the ocean. It would be awesome! I live in California so i see this stuff all the time, maybe even if you add more of a nautical feel with your beach stuff. Love it!!!