(Closed) Does it matter what colors the parents wear?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Should the rest of the bridal party match?
    The entire bridal party should at least be a color from your palette : (6 votes)
    7 %
    Who cares what the parents/other relatives wear, it won't affect anything : (61 votes)
    68 %
    It'd be weird to have your mom/dad in the same color as the bridesmaids/groomsmen : (19 votes)
    21 %
    Other? : (4 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I personally didn’t care. My Future Mother-In-Law ended up buying three or four dresses for my wedding because she couldn’t make up her mind, so trying to tell her to get a specific color would have been a nightmare.

    Post # 4
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    3126 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    My colors were black, white, gray, and red. My mother wore a black dress with a white shawl and my father wore a gray tux. My DH’s father wore a black tux and his mother wore a bluish green dress (not quite teal, not quite turquoise…). Both sets of parents looked wonderful and no one looked awkward in pictures at all!

    Post # 5
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    2999 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I don’t think so. My families mostly want to look nice in the photos since its the only time we’ll be taking and printing photos together. They are choosing/chose colorts that would compliment with everyone else in the pictures.

    Post # 6
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    732 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think if theyre walking down the isle they should be wearing a similar color, but if theyre just in the audience it shouldnt matter. Im asking my mom, dad and Future Mother-In-Law to wear black or burgindy dresses/suits since those are the colors. I really dont care which but Id like everyone to match 

    Post # 7
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    117 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My mother is wearing a color that compliments my bridal party because my sisters and niece are part of the wedding party.  She will be taking pictures with each one and I don’t want them to clash.

    Post # 8
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    1285 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We gave our parents our color pallette and they contacted each other to coordinate. It worked out really well that everyone was comfortable in the colors they felt complimented them well and they weren’t too “matchy matchy”.

    Post # 9
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    5547 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Mine wore outfits in the color scheme, ILs clashed and it didn’t look nearly as good as my family who all dressed in complementary colors. But my family did it on their own I didn’t tell them to. 

    Post # 10
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    6210 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    It won’t change anything, unless you mom wears white. Now how to talk my mom out of that cream colored dress…

    Post # 11
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    846 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    i told my parents i didn’t care, but everyone has decided to coordinate with the wedding party. both the dads are wearing matching tan suits, and the moms are wearing dresses in shades of brown that go well with the dads vests (and our siblings are in the bridal party wearing tan suits and yellow dresses).

    i went to a wedding last summer where the bride picked both mothers’ dresses.. i thought that was kind of weird (they aren’t bridesmaids!) but she is a total control freak lol.

    Post # 12
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    9486 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I don’t think they need to have a color from your color scheme but I think it is nice to coordinate somewhat.  For example, if you are using a bunch of soft pastels everywhere and your mom is wearing bright siren red it could look a little off in the photos.

    Post # 13
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    1095 posts
    Bumble bee

    Since I had a light/earthy color palette for my bridal party, I suggested to my mom and fmil  that they wear a light color (as opposed to black or navy) just so they dont stand out amongst a sea of light colors. But I would in no way impose a dress code to them, thats not my place.

    Post # 14
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    5423 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    In hindsight, it won’t matter.  But I know how it can feel important.  My mom chose a color (silver) and then Mother-In-Law asked if I had a preference, which was hard for her to keep.  She eventually chose a gold/nude sheen dress with a black lace overlay.  My mother ended up choosing a black to silver ombre dress.  My Maid/Matron of Honor wore black so it was a nice blend. 

    If your colors are neutral or bold and you want them to keep to the theme I don’t see any harm in suggesting it.  It’s only a suggestion anyway.

    Post # 15
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    191 posts
    Blushing bee

    IMO you can do whatever you want, its your wedding day. But me personally I want both set of parents and our special guest (grandparents/great grandparents) to coordinate with the wedding colors.

    But White, Cream and Red are Big NO NO colors for me. don’t want anyone to steal your shine you know.

    Post # 16
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    2907 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think it’s a good idea to at least coordinate – i.e., not wear a bright red dress if everyone else is in neutrals – but I wouldn’t push the issue if the parents don’t want to cooperate. 

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