Post # 1
I have been planning on having my mom walked down the aisle but my sister’s live in boyrfiend, who will be serving as 1 of our ushers. Yesterday my grandmother made a big stink that it’s wrong because he’s not family and that my oldest uncle should be the one to do it. My grandmother thinks he’s stuck up and doesn’t like him but he has been part of our family for 3 years and in all likelyhood be apart of it forever. Am I wrong or is she? I personally didn’t think it mattered but maybe I missed some rule or something.
Post # 3
@Hobokenbride2012: Why don’t you ask your mom who she’d like to have walk her down the aisle?
My godfather was the officiant so we had him walk my mom down the aisle.
Post # 4
She said she doesn’t care.
Post # 5
Hmm…would it make it easier to just send your mom down the aisle alone? Otherwise if you don’t mind it, just have your uncle walk her down.
Post # 6
Have your sister’s boyfriend seat her. My sister’s boyfriend is seating my mother (since in all likelihood they are getting married next year), and my favorite cousin is seating my Future Mother-In-Law.
Even if your sister and boyfriend ever break up, no one is going to remember or care. 🙂
Post # 7
I don’t think it matters and frankly your grandmother shouldn’t be commenting on the matter. It seems this is less about formality and more about personal grudges.
Choose whoever you and your mother think is most appropriate. If your mother is closer to your uncle, that may be a better idea but it doesn’t really matter. My concern would be that by giving a boyfriend an important part in the wedding, should he ever break up with your sister, he’s going to be front and center in the pictures… but I suppose I’m a little more wary as a result of all the breakups in my family.
Giving your uncle a role in the wedding might be a nice gesture as well.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
If your mother doesn’t care, it might be easiest just to let the uncle do it to give grannie a win…unless you feel passionately about your potential BIL doing it.
It’s such a small thing…if grannie made a “big stink” than she might get really, really fixated on it.