(Closed) Does it matter? You tell me! Shower or wedding invitations first?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: What do you think?
    RSVP dates are fine : (8 votes)
    20 %
    Change the RSVP date of the wedding! : (6 votes)
    15 %
    Wedding invitations must be received before shower invitation : (12 votes)
    30 %
    It doesn't matter which invitation is received first : (14 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 17
    9951 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    It truly does not matter.

    Although, it is nice if the Wedding Invites are out before any Showers are held… as Bridal Showers are typically held in the weeks immediately before the Wedding.

    BUT that isn’t a rule cast in stone… with today’s more global society, and couples coming together from all over the world, or choosing to have marriages that aren’t just in their “hometowns” (where they grew up, and their Parents reside)… often times concessions must be made in regards to locations & timing for Showers.

    Not unheard of now for Brides to have several showers in the weeks / months leading up to the Wedding, and in different cities etc.

    Hope this helps,

    PS… The general rule of thumb tho when it comes to Bridal Showers, is that those invited are also going to receive Invites to the Wedding… which is WHY when a Host offers to plan / organize a Shower she should consult with the Bride regarding the Guest List.

    The ONLY acceptable exceptions to this rule is if the Bride has a large circle of social contacts that are more casual in nature… in which case someone from one of those groups might plan a Shower for those within that immediate circle, but it would be clear that there is no expectation of Guests being invited to the Wedding (so… Work Colleagues – Sports Teams – Sorority Houses – Volunteer Groups – Youth Groups… such as all the Brownies from a Pack she leads, or her Sunday School Class etc)

    Hope this helps,


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