(Closed) Does it really matter what others post on here? (rings, dresses, etc.)

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
Member
1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

well,

people post because they want responses 

i respond because i have an opinion/want the conversation/think i’m pretty witty

 

I think if everyone thought before they posted this board would be a real snooze. 

Post # 4
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471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You just put my thoughts into words better than I ever could have. I completely agree. There have been things about my wedding that have crossed my mind, and I never started a thread about it because I felt like I have seen so many threads that had such potential to be helpful just turn into a bashing of the OP. I try to stick to myself and scan for helpful comments because of this issue. Thanks for posting about it. 🙂

Post # 5
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2701 posts
Sugar bee

I’ve read some not so nice comments about rings, but not about dresses. I think comments about dresses lead to it being perceived as comments about one’s body so I think those are generally steered clear of. I see what you’re saying and I agree. If someone posts their engagement ring and I think it’s hideous, I either post “Conrgats!” or nothing at all and click away. I do get peeved I suppose when girls gripe about their rings but I guess it is because I am lucky to have liked mine so much. I don’t comment or read those threads anymore, as I have nothing positive to add. I think you chose your words quite well. To be completely honest with you, I think some Bees (including myself) jump on here after having a crappy day and when the first post it “I hate my engagement ring”, they can’t help themselves. I refuse to be a B**ch for no reason so I just ignore it and find some post where I can attempt to actually help someone. I like this post.

Post # 7
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3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think that rude or snarky comments are ever acceptable. Period. However, when you ask for an opinion about dresses or rings, you need to be okay with it when people respectfully say they don’t really like your choices.

For instance, I have seen people create posts where they have two dresses and ask which people like better, A or B. Let’s say everyone picks B and constructively criticize A. Then the OP gets upset because she ultimately decided in her head that A was the better choice. My question for her would be: Why the hell did you even ask?!

What I’m trying to say is that if you’re asking for honest opinions, you need to be able to take them and not get upset when others may have opinions that differ from your own. 

Post # 8
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I dont think that people always are trying to be rude when they come across this way. But when you post a pic and ask for bees honest oppinions they are going to give them. some may be more blunt than others, but about 90% of the time I dont think people are trying to be rude. 

Post # 9
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1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

If you put anything out into a public forum, you’ve got to expect to get criticized. Sure, it would be nicer if everyone was rainbows and smiles all the time, but it wouldn’t be very productive. People post on here for advice, opinions, etc. and that’s what they get. Yeah, some comments are downright rude and uncalled for, but that’s what you get when you get a group of different individuals together and discuss anything.

Post # 11
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3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@agirlwithdreams7: Very true. I have encountered this a few times on the boards, but for the most part, I think Weddingbee is a really positive and uplifting community. 

Post # 12
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1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@agirlwithdreams7: Okay you’re right – I agree there is definitely a difference in the way one words things, the thought and meaning behind it, etc. But, why would someone post something on the internet if they’re NOT looking for comments, advice, criticism, compliments?

Post # 13
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think that every post you make you will get opinions. Not just support and agreement. As humans that’s what we do. We are presented with something and we develop an opinion. Some of us keep our mouths shut and smile and nod and others say it how it is. This board is just like real life. Different thought process’ and different personalities.

Post # 14
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7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@brideatbeach: My question for her would be: Why the hell did you even ask?!

I think when they choose A and everyone choose B, its because they really didn’t know what they wanted until everyone picked the opposite. that happens in real life too all the time i think.   one way to figure out what you want is to ask someone and see how you react to their choice!  As for that bride then getting upset because most people like the opposite, that’s a different story. they should just move on and know that probably at least 10 people feel the same as them and hope the percentage is higher at their wedding!

Post # 15
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

What is the point of an internet forum if people are not expressing their opinions. I don’t understand or agree with the point of your post.

Post # 16
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7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@crayfish: i think she meant she doesn’t think its nice for people to attack or rudely express their opinions. their are always tactful ways to say things.  and if you can’t, then why post?  i kind of agree.

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