(Closed) does it really matter whose name goes first on favor tags, napkins, etc?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

No, it won’t look funny. I always understood that after you are married the husband’s name goes first. At least that is how I always do it because I took my husbands’s last name.

Post # 4
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013


I wanted everything with my hubby’s name first. I might just be old fashioned though:)

Post # 5
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Usually the man’s name is first, but I don’t think it really matters. Just do what you guys want to do.

Post # 6
16196 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I don’t think it matters. I personally cared more about consistency than what’s technically “right.” Although I’d always heard it bride’s name first on all pre-wedding things, and groom’s first on all things post-wedding (meaning, once you’re married, like you will be at the reception!).

Post # 7
257 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think it matters one bit! I think you should do whichever way sounds better. My name ends in -a and I don’t like the sound of “___a and” so I put his name first on everything. But if his name ended in -a, I would have done the opposite!

Post # 8
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think there’s any rule.. I just put mine first.. whenver we’re talked about as a couple it’s always “Jenn and Joe,” so saying “Joe and Jenn” just sounded odd to me. He did ask “Why is your name first on everything?” My reply was “Because I’m doing all the work.”

Post # 9
905 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We’ve been choosing whose name goes first based solely on how it looks from the graphic design angle. Our save the dates read with “my first name (7 leters) &” on the top line and “his first name (9 letters)” on the bottom. It had nothing to do with etiquette and everything to do with how it looked. On our embosser his name is on top and mine is on the bottom for the similar reasons.

We’re pretty laid back on this traditional gender roles thing, though, and I won’t be taking his last name, so that plays into our decisions as well. 

Post # 10
5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I put my name first.  It happend to be alpabetical that way. 

Post # 11
9181 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I think traditionally the bride’s name goes first? But these days it doesn’t really matter. I’m just switching it up and doing half and half. 

Post # 14
5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@August2013Bride:  I put my name first on everything lol I guess I’m just selfish but fiance doesnt care either way

Post # 15
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My name went first on our monogram/stationary, but I didn’t look into etiquette, at all.

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