(Closed) Does knowing make it easier or harder?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Knowing that he has the ring is awful!  I “accidentally” stumbled upon the ring hidden in our apartment while he was gone one day.  This happened over a month ago and I am literally going crazy!  I am kicking myself for snooping around. I just found the box and the appraisal for the ring, but I kept myself from opening the box to see what it looks like. 

At least you two have planned a date and it seems you like you have started planning a little?  Good luck and Congratulations!

Post # 5
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Busy bee

hahaha.  This is so funny.  It really is like when we were kids and having to wait on Santa!!!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MissBeans– he did pick it out all on his own.  We talked about it a while back and decided that we would not step foot into a store together to look until we were picking out wedding bands.  However, I was not so subtle about what I wanted.  I sent e-hint after e-hint.  Keep restraining yourself because as soon as you know the ring has landed you will want to take it out of its hiding spot and ask him to marry you!

 

@Miss Biner– it is like the longest Christmas anticipation EVER!!!  I love it and I hate it!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

i do believe knowing he has the ring is horrible!!!! I’ve known my bf has had the setting of my ring for almost a year now and everyday of my life i wonder when he will propose!!!! We went and picked out the setting together and his job was to put a diamond in the ring. Well picking out the setting was the worst idea ever!! There hans’t been one day of almost a year that i haven’t thought about him proposing. Yeah it was great we picked out the setting because i got to show him what i wanted but knowing he has the setting and not knowing when he will put a diamond in it has been hell for me!! I would rather of not known anything at all!!!!!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

ooooh gosh for me, knowing that he had it was awful!!! every other second i was wondering if “tonight would be the night” and then i’d get disappointed when it wasn’t. i think it might have been better for me if i had been in the complete dark! GOOD LUCK!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Call me crazy, but I kinda like waiting! lol Its so exciting and fun and I love it when my bf drops hints to me about it hehe. He thinks he’s driving me crazy about it, but I secretly love it lol… i sometimes feel like a masochist lol

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It is SO MUCH worse!! I was fortunate enough to see my ring he day before my SO bought it, which wasn’t a surprise at all because i FELL IN LOVE with my ring.  This was a month ago… and every single day I get more and more anxious waiting for the day he pops the question!!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery

I think it was awful knowinf about the ring….especially since I had to keep my knowing about it a secret! Fiance went off telling everyone and their mother that he bought a ring and that he would propose, but he didn’t want anyone to know I knew about it.  So I had to bite my lip everytime I got those “just checking in to see what’s new” calls.  Eventually my knowing was too stressful for the both of us so he brought back the ring with my knowing.  In the end he surprised me out of the blue with a completlety different ring that couldn’t have been more perfect!

Post # 12
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Helper bee

pics of the ring

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

For me, knowing was a great relief 🙂 I wasn’t as certain as you that a proposal was coming – we’d discussed it a LOT and he said he thought he would propose during 2009 since 2008 had been a big year. But I still wasn’t 100% sure it was going to happen, and I have to say that in my head Plan B was forming. I have never told him this and probably won’t, but a few weeks before he proposed I found the valuation certificate for my ring in the car. It was a brochure and I didn’t open it, in fact I just glimpsed it under the seat and purposely didn’t touch it, scared of what it might be 🙂 (After the proposal I “found” it again and gave it back to him without reading it :)) But knowing that it was coming was a big weight off my shoulders, I could forget Plan B and just relax!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My ring is landing next week. Seriously, next week. And he had SO better get around to insuring the stupid thing so that I can have it!

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

soooooo much worse. I “kinda” knew that my Fiance was going to propose on our oct vacation since we started talking about it last may but i was very chill about it. Then in august i found out he was ring shopping. cue freaking the hell out haha. knowing for sure makes it WAY worse. 

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think knowing would suck. For me it would take all the fun out of it, I’d be like you might as well do it already, I know its coming. i think it would be sooo irritating. I really want to be surprised.

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