(Closed) Does moving in together really change everything?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

 

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Mango817:  My husband and I moved intogether after 4 months of knowing each other. 4 years later during which we adopted 2 dogs, moved 3 times, bought a house, renovated said house, an engagement, planning a wedding, getting married and now having a baby, he is STILL my favorite person to hang out with. He is my best friend and the one person I really do love to spend time with. I can count on one hand how many girls/guys nights out either of us have had since meeting. Some people need more time alone than others. You’ll just have to figure out what works for you guys! I really wouldnt worry about ‘getting sick of him’.

Post # 47
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Bumble bee

Honestly it changed NOTHING for us but it seems were in the minority! We were together about a month before we unofficially moved in together (had been friends for longer). I had horrible roommates at college so moved half my stuff to his house and basically lived there for the year. Then the next year we had graduated and started renting officially together. Nothing changed. No arguments – at least nothing serious but then again we never argue, were just not those sort of people. Weve been living together about 4 years now and in that time, 3 different cities and 1 different country! We shared finances from about 6 months in (people thought we were crazy but it worked for us). I think maybe our experience is very different from everyone elses! 

As for the ‘ball and chain’, ‘whipped’ jokes – ever noticed that the people who usually make those are single… Also no one likes to hear people talk about their happy marriage- when youre happily married and your friends are single you dont want to rub it in, so people made these jokes for unhappy single friends to feel better (‘youre so lucky not to be tied down’ etc..). Unfortunately now they are taken as more than jokes and people have started to believe them! Laugh at the jokes and look past them.

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

My SO and I have been together for 8 years and have lived together for nealry 7 of those years, it has changed EVERYTHING in my opinion… FOR THE BETTER! I had never lived out of home before moving in with SO and I was really worried that it would be an adjustment but I found it to be one of the easiest ever!  

Good luck and enjoy it 🙂 

Post # 49
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Bumble bee

We had no issues when we moved in together. I know other people that were not so lucky. Depends on how compatable you are with chores, money etc. My partner and I are very laid back and have never had any issues. I enjoy my space every so often, but I never find myself making plans to get away! Like you would with a housemate, I suppose.

Apologies for the reference, but it’s like that episode of SATC where Carrie and Aiden move into together and he drives her crazy. When she finally gets the alone time she wanted, she runs straight to him!

Don’t let them get you down! Hopefully it will all go smoothly. If not, I’m sure you can figure it out!

Post # 50
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Sugar bee

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Mango817:  We have only been living together 6 months, so I am not sure when it is supposed to hit?

 People either tell me the first few months are the hardest because it’s an adjustment period and then when i say that the “adjustment period” didnt really hit us then they say “oh – give it some time and you will get sick of eachother” and im just like how awful! LOL

Honestly, it has been really smooth sailing since we moved in together and it has been wonderful! We were talking about how weird it is that we miss eachother more now that we live together and see eachother everyday haha. Then again, we already knew a lot about eachothers living habits. IE he knew i was a slob haha. 

 

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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Mango817:  Don’t worry about wat your relationship will be like based on your friends. They are not you! 

If you’re worried about getting sick of each other just make sure to spend time doing things apart as well as together. It’s no big deal. If you love seeing each other now and are both laid back people it wont change. 

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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Mango817: my husband and i have lived together every day that we’ve been a couple…we moved in together as roommates…which turned to love just 3 months later. and now, over 3 years later, we’re married and still happily spend every second together. “living together is like having a sleepover with your best friend every night!” – i’ve read that somewhere…and it is so true. don’t listen to all these men in the world who constantly talk down about marriage…because if it was so awful…why would so many men want it the same way women do!? its so silly. our culture can be so insane sometimes.

you’re going to live with your best friend and be in love and sometimes you’ll fight…but you’ll learn how you best deal with that once you’re sharing living space. my husband and i have arguements, but when we do, they last all of 20 minutes, and we’re over it. i refuse to waste my time in this precious life fighting over little things that don’t matter. go in to this with a happy heart and be excited! its going to be great 🙂 just be sure to always make time for yourselves – do things separately. it will make you miss one another and want to come back together.

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