Post # 1
I might be over reacting but just need opinions. My husband usually doesn’t talk to many people but he met this one friend at work and he says he has the same personality as him. Little description of coworker. He’s five years younger, single, attractive and says the women out here doesn’t meet his standards and he doesn’t want to be broke from having a girlfriend. Him and my husband text everyday non stop and I think it is weird. He even wanted this guy to come on a family day with us witch he said he was just playing. But he stays on the phone with the guy most of the day at work with additional coworkers as a three way call. if I ask do he thinks he coworker is gay he says no way and defends him. Also all they do is joke around and my hubby wants to tell this guy every time I mention him because he says the other guy will just think it’s funny. It’s just goofing around between them all the time. Am I just overreacting ?
Post # 2
I don’t think your husband sounds gay, it sounds like he is having a bro-mance.
I’m sure it will die down eventually.
Post # 3
I agree with PP, sounds like a bromance. I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 4
Dude, my husband and his best friend blow that out of the water. I joke that if I and my best friend die (Husband’s best friend’s wife) they’ll just marry each other and ride off into the sunset.
He’s got a dude friend. He’s not gay, goodness. I can’t believe that’s the first assumption you made.
Post # 5
Do,you mean that you can’t talk to him about his sexual preferences? Do you really suspect he would lie about something is big?
FWIW, I don’t think it sounds like the relationship is sexual, but we don’t know your Darling Husband or your relationship, so it’s impossible to be definitive. Talk to him!
Post # 6
No, he doesn’t sound gay. strange that that’s your thought process…
Unless there’s more to the story
Post # 7
If genders were reversed (you found a female friend at work and chatted to her a lot), no one would think twice.
If anything bothers me, it’s that it sounds like he’s chatting instead of working. But maybe that’s the nature of his job?
Post # 8
No I don’t think you are over reacting. Pay close attention and always beware. It’s weird.
Post # 9
sillybilly: I hate the old school stereotype that men can’t have a BFF without it meaning they are gay.
I think there might be a different issue here. First of allhow is the rest of your relationship? Any big changes? Are you exaggerating about the texting all day and the all day phone calls at work? Where does he work that he is able to spend time on these phone calls?!!With all this texting, do you still have quality time together?
Some possibilities – 1) your Darling Husband has been understandably lonely for friends without really realizing it so he is now overdoing it a bit.
2) You aren’t used to seeing him have a good friend much less a new brother type friend so you feel a bit left out and are trying to adjust.
3) You and he are having misunderstandings or his ego is hurt so he is turning to the friend for validation (like an inappropriate friendship minus the sex where the partner is neglected in favor of the third party)
4) Along with number 3, maybe Darling Husband is feeling hurt and neglected in the marriage so he is drawn to a single, cool, unencumbered male friend while fantasizing about being single again. Or along with that, could your Darling Husband be reliving his single days because he feels out of his depth with adult marital responsibilities ( I know – boohoo) – are you two about to TTC for example and your Darling Husband is scared?
Most likely, your Darling Husband is just enjoying having a friend just as you enjoy your girlfriends since it’s new to him 🙂 But since I don’t know if you posted because you overthink like I do or because something feels wrong, I would take the temperature of your marriage to make sure you two aren’t temporarily having other problems as well as to make sure he is not neglecting you and you are not being possessive.
Post # 10
Is he having sex with this guy? No? Probably not gay then.
Post # 12
Lol my fiance has bromance like this with some of his guy friends (who are also my best friends…. We have mutal friends). Its bromance. you should be glad he has such a close guy friend right? It’s actually really strange to me that you went stright for questioning his sexuality lol
Post # 13
MechEBee: This made my day!
Post # 14
Im lol I think this is so funny now! Thanks for all the response!
Post # 15
My Fiance has best friends that probably they could all marry each other and be happy. None of them are gay though but they are super close. It makes me happy that he has such wonderful friends, I know that if something ever happened to me, he has a lot of people to lean on. I act the same way with some of my girl friends hehe