(Closed) Does my husband sound gay?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

I don’t think your husband sounds gay, it sounds like he is having a bro-mance.

I’m sure it will die down eventually.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I agree with PP, sounds like a bromance.  I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Dude, my husband and his best friend blow that out of the water. I joke that if I and my best friend die (Husband’s best friend’s wife) they’ll just marry each other and ride off into the sunset.

He’s got a dude friend. He’s not gay, goodness. I can’t believe that’s the first assumption you made.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Do,you mean that you can’t talk to him about his sexual preferences? Do you really suspect he would lie about something is big?

FWIW, I don’t think it sounds like the relationship is sexual, but we don’t know your Darling Husband or your relationship, so it’s impossible to be definitive. Talk to him!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

No, he doesn’t sound gay. strange that that’s your thought process… 

Unless there’s more to the story

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If genders were reversed (you found a female friend at work and chatted to her a lot), no one would think twice.

If anything bothers me, it’s that it sounds like he’s chatting instead of working. But maybe that’s the nature of his job?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

No I don’t think you are over reacting. Pay close attention and always beware. It’s weird. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

sillybilly:  I hate the old school stereotype that men can’t have a BFF without it meaning they are gay.

I think there might be a different issue here. First of allhow is the rest of your relationship? Any big changes? Are you exaggerating about the texting all day and the all day phone calls at work? Where does he work that he is able to spend time on these phone calls?!!With all this texting, do you still have quality time together? 

Some possibilities – 1) your Darling Husband has been understandably lonely for friends without really realizing it so he is now overdoing it a bit. 

2) You aren’t used to seeing him have a good friend much less a new brother type friend so you feel a bit left out and are trying to adjust.

3) You and he are having misunderstandings or his ego is hurt so he is turning to the friend for validation (like an inappropriate friendship minus the sex where the partner is neglected in favor of the third party)

4) Along with number 3, maybe Darling Husband is feeling hurt and neglected in the marriage so he is drawn to a single, cool, unencumbered male friend while fantasizing about being single again. Or along with that, could your Darling Husband be reliving his single days because he feels out of his depth with adult marital responsibilities ( I know – boohoo) – are you two about to TTC for example and your Darling Husband is scared?

Most likely, your Darling Husband is just enjoying having a friend just as you enjoy your girlfriends since it’s new to him 🙂 But since I don’t know if you posted because you overthink like I do or because something feels wrong, I would take the temperature of your marriage to make sure you two aren’t temporarily having other problems as well as to make sure he is not neglecting you and you are not being possessive.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Is he having sex with this guy? No? Probably not gay then.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Post # 12
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Newbee

Lol my fiance has bromance like this with some of his guy friends (who are also my best friends…. We have mutal friends). Its bromance. you should be glad he has such a close guy friend right? It’s actually really strange to me that you went stright for questioning his sexuality lol

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My Fiance has best friends that probably they could all marry each other and be happy.  None of them are gay though but they are super close.  It makes me happy that he has such wonderful friends, I know that if something ever happened to me, he has a lot of people to lean on.  I act the same way with some of my girl friends hehe

 

 

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