I am an older Bee (over 50)
And I will tell you what My Mother, Mother-In-Law, Gramma and every older woman told me… many of them who got pregnant when ONLY NFP was available to women back in the day… (and what I now tell everyone else like yourself)
NFP is a joke.
Sure you will hear from lots of people how great it is because it is “all natural”
But in reality, when YOU end up pregnant … they’ll be no where in sight, still telling people what they should be doing (NFP)
And if you try to say it didn’t work for you… they’ll tell you did it wrong.
No skin off their noses, afterall they aren’t raising the baby… YOU ARE
When I got married the first time (circa 1980) I was on the pill. Never had a pregnancy scare in 5 years.
Then My Ex and I decided to get pregnant… back then you made up your mind and just went for it, cause most of us were in our early 20s as Brides, and fertility / infertility wasn’t a HUGE issue (most fertile in a couple’s lives)
Infact, most people only charted IF they were having issues getting pregnant.
Anyhow, I went off the pill in early December, by mid January I was pregnant. It just happened. Easy peasy.
I suggest you have a nice long talk with the Doctor, bet she could tell you some stories where she’s seen pregnancies happen that the NFP people will tell you cannot happen
Truth is they do happen… people who get pregnant the first time, people who get pregnant on their periods, people who get pregnant without penetration… it really & truly does happen !!
You don’t want a baby… then your safest choices are:
2- Reliable Birth Control that is EASY to use, and highly effective.
Statistically that is still hormonal.
Don’t want to use hormonal methods, then read up, and double-up !!
In my opinion there is nothing wrong with NFP, IF YOU ALSO ARE USING SOME OTHER METHOD OF BC THAT IS RELIABLE WHEN USED CORRECTLY
Have known plenty of people who have used NFP alongside of Condoms, Diaphragms etc
The key tho is using things correctly… and consistently !!
That means taking the time to read up & learn… and because many such methods have to be utilized “at a last minute’s notice” (vs hormonal) it also means you have to probably STOP what you are doing and then insert / use them
That is the consistency part… YOU HAVE TO DO IT NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT BREAKS THE MOOD
(That is what I did with my Ex in my first marriage, and I only ever in my whole life got pregnant when I was wanting to… when I was aware of my cycle, and used reliable BC every.single.time, lol sometimes even doubling up on that… I never got pregnant)
My Grandmother’s Generation (1920), My Mothers (1950s) and Myself (1980s) are like your Mother-In-Law we won’t steer you wrong on this, because we truly want you to know what happens because we have seen it for ourselves first hand (My Mother-In-Law said in the 1950s even with Condoms and NFP, she could get pregnant at the drop of a hat)
Hope this helps,