Post # 1
My mother wants to throw me a wedding shower and I think it’s really sweet but it kinda has me anxious and a little…well….embarassed.
She has asked me for a list of friends I would like to invite but the truth is it’s kind of a sad little list. I used to have a large group of close girlfriends in highschool but once we graduated we all moved in different directions. I haven’t spoken to them in years and I wouldnt know how to start tracking them down even if I wanted to.
I am just a floater. I make friends where I go and when I move away I tend to lose contact. I have a few friends from work who I would consider inviting but I rarely see them outside of the work setting. I’m a home body and although I used to be a social butterfly I have found that over the years I have grown into a bit of an introvert who enjoys privacy. I feel a bit embarassed by my total lack of a social life and I don’t know what to tell my mother when she asks for a list. My finace thinks its amazing how I can make friends wherever I go, but my trouble is keeping in contact with them.
Should I just skip the whole shower thing all together? Yikes, Im embarassed even typing this…what happened to me? lol
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@MissRusticBee: You can definitely still have a shower, mine was 75% family! I don’t have a lot of friends either 🙂
Post # 4
I’m having the same problem. My Maid/Matron of Honor has been bugging me for a list of names for my bachelorette party and I have roughly two names, her and my other Bridesmaid or Best Man. Yeah, it’s sad. I have a few other girlfriends but all of them have moved away or wouldn’t be able to come. It’s sad really. I’m trying to convince her that I don’t want any kind of party but she’s not having it right now.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry about having too many friends at your bridal shower. Most bridal showers I’ve been to have been mostly family, and mine will be that way as well. I say give your mom your list, explain your situation, and enjoy your shower!
p.s. Look at it this way, it’s less thank you notes to write 😉
Post # 6
I don’t have any friends either, I think a lot of woman have the same issue! Don’t sweat it. I easily make acquaintances, but I very very rarely ever get close enough to anyone to call them a friend. All of my pre-wedding events will be about 90% family or extended family, and 10% acquaintances.
Post # 7
I had one friend at the bridal shower. The rest was family. The average age was 50. This is pretty normal from what I hear.
Post # 8
I can totally relate to you. I had a large circle of friends in high school but once we graduated we all went separate ways; same as in college. Wether it is high school, college, or work, I make friends but then they don’t continue long term. I was initially sad about it when I was thinking about bacholrette parties and wedding showers but then I decided not to worry about it. I have two best friends that I adore and a fiance that I love dearly and that’s all I need. I’m going out to dinner with three friends before the wedding and that is it, no wedding shower and no bachelorette party and I am ok with that. If you want to have a wedding shower for 3 people, 4 people, whatever number, enjoy it, embrace it and love every minute of it. The people that are there are the ones that mean the most anyway.
Post # 9
I would just have a family shower if I were you!
But I’m like that, and I’m not having a shower. My friends actually CANCELLED on my bachelorette party TWO DAYS beforehand!
Post # 10
@MissRusticBee: The shower does need to consist of wedding guests, so if these are people you don’t plan on inviting to your wedding (sounds like you had to dig up names and contact info), then they cannot be invited to your shower.
When I had a Dw planned, I was not inviting anyone from my town (well like one family), so a shower was just logistically impossible as there were no female friends in my town to invite.
You can just have female relatives too.
Post # 11
I am also having slight anxiety about my shower – I moved about a year ago and have tried to be good at keeping in touch with those friends but I guess we shall see.
Post # 12
I don’t have a lot of friends either but I’m still having a shower! It will be mostly family, a few of our mutual friends, and a couple of my girlfriends!
Post # 13
@MissRusticBee: There is nothing wrong with you, and if there is than I guess I’m screwed, too: I have very, very few friends, to the point where I’m also thinking of passing on alot of the usual fanfare surrounding an engagement/wedding.