Post # 1
Whenever I receive an invite to anything – baby shower, wedding, bachelorette party – there is always this little voice in my head telling me that I’m obligated to give a gift, regardless of whether or not I’m going. But the other (deeper and more devious/rebellious) part of me thinks that I should only give a gift if I like the person or couple or whatever. What do the angels/demons on your shoulders think about this?
Do you give gifts for every occasion you’re invited to?
Post # 3
I feel like if it was an obligation to give a gift just for receiving an invitation, some people would abuse it, and send all kinds of invitations to people they knew wouldn’t come. (Ie. inviting a relative out of state to a bridal shower.) But I’m a little synical. I think it’s best to feel the situation individually adn give a gift if you’re close to someone.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
For me it is. I guess I’ve never received an invite to a wedding for someone who I didn’t WANT to be happy. So even if I can’t make it, I usually think ‘I’m sure they’d appreciate if I sent a card…’ and usually I’ll go out and look for their registry, and get them a gift card to one of the stores they’re registered at. That way, my card has a little help in it too. As a bonus, they’ll then usually send a cute thank you note with a pic of their wedding day or some other nice sentiments in it, which is always nice to see.
Post # 5
I would give a gift if the invitation was from someone I was related to or close friends with at one point in my life. If it’s from my second cousin who I wouldn’t recognize if we were passing in the street or a co-worker who I don’t spend time with outside of work, a greeting card with good wishes is enough.