(Closed) Does receiving an invite obligate you to give a gift?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Does receiving an invite obligate you to give a gift?
    Yes : (4 votes)
    20 %
    No : (15 votes)
    75 %
    It's complicated, and I'll explain below... : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2640 posts
    Sugar bee

     I feel like if it was an obligation to give a gift just for receiving an invitation, some people would abuse it, and send all kinds of invitations to people they knew wouldn’t come.  (Ie. inviting a relative out of state to a bridal shower.)  But I’m a little synical.  I think it’s best to feel the situation individually adn give a gift if you’re close to someone.

    Post # 4
    Bee
    1048 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

    For me it is. I guess I’ve never received an invite to a wedding for someone who I didn’t WANT to be happy. So even if I can’t make it, I usually think ‘I’m sure they’d appreciate if I sent a card…’ and usually I’ll go out and look for their registry, and get them a gift card to one of the stores they’re registered at. That way, my card has a little help in it too. As a bonus, they’ll then usually send a cute thank you note with a pic of their wedding day or some other nice sentiments in it, which is always nice to see.

    Post # 5
    Member
    133 posts
    Blushing bee

    I would give a gift if the invitation was from someone I was related to or close friends with at one point in my life. If it’s from my second cousin who I wouldn’t recognize if we were passing in the street or a co-worker who I don’t spend time with outside of work, a greeting card with good wishes is enough.

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