Post # 1
I have another FSIL question! The bridesmaid dresses are due to come in next week. When the girls ordered the dresses they paid a deposit. The remaining is $117. My FSIL was in the wedding until about 4 weeks ago when things really came to a head with his family and the mistreatment by them all. At that point I said to her it was best she just be a guest at the wedding and not in it since she obviously doesn’t support the marriage. Things have gotten worse over the last 4 weeks. I figured I would attempt at being the bigger person and called her 3 days before my shower because I didn’t want it to be ruined over this. She never called back and came to the shower and acted like a jerk and then tried to start issues again after the shower. At that point I really said, I’m done, I felt that if she would have at least tried to talk to me and we could have worked out the issues then yeah I def would have been fine with having her in the wedding, but not now after all this.
So my question, does she pay the remaining balance on the dress or do I? I was chatting with my GF last night and I mentioned that I was going to pay the balance, but my GF thinks I shouldn’t have to pay it because of the situations.
I don’t know, what you all think? I surely don’t want to pay it and with 2 months from the wedding, that $117 could go to something much needed and I’ve already spent money on the BM gifts which I got her stuff for because I didn’t forsee any of this happening, but by nature I’m not a jerky person, I’m always the one that gets stiffed with money because I’m always over accommodating.
Post # 3
I had this similiar situation happen and I am sorry that you are going through this. I think at this point in the game you should pay for the remaining balance. My FSIL’s had already paid and have their gowns in hand before they dropped out of my wedding, but since your FSIL had not already paid unfortunately I think it falls on you. Since you don’t have a good relationship I think asking her for the money is going to cause even bigger problems.
Post # 4
I think that since you asked her to step down as opposed to her quiting (no matter the circumstances behind it), that you need to pay for her dress. I’d even say you ought to be re-embursing her for the deposit she put down for it too. She shouldn’t have to pay anything for a dress she won’t be wearing or keeping just because you asked her to step down.
Sorry – I know that is a lot of money – but I think it is what needs to be done.
Post # 5
Sorry to hear about your situation w/your FSIL. If you don’t pay the remaining balance, can the store just keep the dress and sell it as a sample?
Post # 6
I called the store already and said that it has to be paid for either way, if I wanted to donate it as a sample then I could but payment is required. haha
Post # 7
How ridiculous. So they make money on the dress twice, huh? Unless they knock off a bunch of $$, I wouldn’t go this route. You could at least go to a consignment store. (Or even donate it to GW, before leaving it at the salon.)
But I will agree that if you asked her to step down, you should pay for the dress. Also, if she is that much of a bear, I don’t think asking her to pay will work. She’ll likely laugh/scream at you, and won’t end up paying anyway. An it will likely just make things worse.
I’m sorry. I’d just eat the money and call it, tuition of life.
Post # 8
I agree with everyone on this. You need to pay for it. Can you imagine if you even brought it up to her, how she would react? I doubt you need more drama! It sucks but thats life :/
Post # 9
I agree since you asked her to step down that you need to pay for it. I also agree that she should probably be paid back. It sucks but it’s the right thing to do.
Post # 10
You should pay for the dress. See if you can have it altered for you to wear at a later date, or else try to sell it and recoup some of the money you spent.
Post # 11
I was planning on selling it to a thrift store or something like that anyways. I knew I couldn’t get a lot for it but least I could get something for it instead of just donating it to the store!
Post # 12
That donate it to the store after paying full cost is just offensive, I’d be really irritated about that.
I’d pay the rest and try to sell it online for a bit and if nothing works out then just sell it to a consignment shop. But who knows maybe someone will be using the same BM dresses and it’ll work out.
Post # 13
That’s lame of the store to make you pay for the remainder and “donate” it to the store. Good luck!