(Closed) Does size really matter????

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 18
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2579 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Butterfly6: Okay, that sounds like a story! 😉  

HaaaveYouMetTed:  Gosh, how true!

Tabrett Maria:  Bringing my mind away from the gutter…It all just seems to be a case of keeping up with the Joneses. People sometimes can forget what is important. Ones self-worth should not be connected to a piece of jewellery.

Post # 20
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562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

People like big rings for the same reasons people drive fancy cars. A less expensive version gets the job done anyway but it’s a status symbol. Unfortunately people will judge a ring no matter what, too small or too big everyone has something to say. Personally I feel that as long as you don’t go into debt over material items then it’s  all good.

Post # 22
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9595 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think it’s a celebrity culture, U.S.  thing. Everyone seems to think the pinnacle is a massive ring and wants 100% finger coverage… (Then they’ll upgrade to 105% in a few years of course).

I honestly do not think its bigger the better when it comes to engagement rings. I didn’t pick my ring to maximize carat size with in the budget, at all. It gets desperate at a certain point….. LOOK AT ME IM WEALTHY! LOOK LOOK LOOK! DID YOU SEE MY 3 CARATS WITH HALO(s) ??!?!???? DID I MENTION IM WEALTHY!!?!???? 

I think larger rings can be elegant on older women, though. And I think a lot of the taste level comes from the setting. 

Post # 24
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557 posts
Busy bee

Personally, I feel even asking for a 1ct is over the top, no offense. IF your boyfriend really wants to invest that much in a ring, why not, then don’t feel bad. But I wouldn’t ask him for it. I would tell him that he should buy whatever he feels comfortable with. I’d be happy with a 100$ ring if it’s pretty, and I would rather spend 1000$+ on a downpayment on a house or travels.

Post # 25
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1909 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Courtney1993:  Yes! I was going to mention that picture. I’m in a private group on FB, and one of the ladies posted that pic. Several women said they wouldn’t accept the proposal with that ring and that he needs to try again after he saves up more money. I was like wtf! And needless to say, all of those women were unmarried.

I could have gotten a bigger diamond, but my setting was more important to me than diamond size. In order for my center diamond to work in my setting without having to alter it, it couldn’t be any bigger than .75ish carat. So, I got .77. I ordered a moissanite off of eBay that was a little over a carat for a possible RHR, and honestly there isn’t a big difference in the size of the moissanite and my diamond. I don’t understand the demands for a certain carat size. My main concern was quality, not size.

Post # 26
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2890 posts
Sugar bee

kittytwo:  I think we as a society have developed this notion that bigger is better and to want more than what the other person has. That thought process is absolutely absurd. In thinking that way, we lose sight of what truly matters and that is the commitment and love to share your life with your soulmate. I think so many people need to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Honesty, love and commitment fuel a great marriage…not the size of the ring on your finger.

Exactly. There’s nothing wrong for the richer people out there to buy expensive shiny things. They have that much money to spend. What is problematic is that the way the wealthy used to live has now become what the average household expects and wants to have. 

Post # 28
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1700 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I believe rings are such a personal item that it’s impossible to quantify any ring over another really. Everyone likes and wants something different. That being said, I am sad that size is often what rings and their owners are judged on. 

Post # 29
Hostess
3868 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

A friend of a friend wants a ring that has a 5 carat diamond center stone with 2 carat diamond side stones (ideal cut, no inclusions, etc.). Her boyfriend is currently in a very expensive graduate program and she’s pissed that he hasn’t proposed yet. It doesn’t bother me when people have expensive rings, but it does bother me if the person has unrealistic expectations and is mean to her SO about it or is nasty to others with smaller rings.

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