(Closed) Does size really matter????

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 62
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Stuff like this makes me sick. The size of the ring, or how many rings in this case shouldn’t matter the least when deciding whether or not you want to marry someone.

I feel like it’s almost… disrespectful in a sense to the other person. Though chances are this is just another celebrity stunt.

Post # 63
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

Tabrett Maria:  I think that the media’s obsession with celebrities and their wealth as well as the keeping up with the Jones mentality is what drives a lot of the materialism that we sometimes see when it comes to judging ring sizes or demanding a certain size diamond. 

Though rings have come to symbolize so much (engagement, marriage, etc.) they are not what the whole proposal is about. So if women are saying that they’d say no to spending their life with someone that they supposedly love because the ring is wrong (not good enough) in some way, then they probably aren’t in it for the right reasons in the first place. 

I’m blessed in that my fiancé was able to present me with the ring of my dreams, but had it not been exactly what I wanted, there’s no doubt in my mind that it wouldn’t have affected my answer in any way… Because on that beautiful night, he asked me to be his wife, not if I was in love with the diamond ring that he bought me. Although I was, and still am 🙂 And if not, that could easily be resolved at a later point. 

Post # 64
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

It upsets me too. Even if we did have the budget for a big ring, I would never want one. Even before I started dating my fiancé 7 years ago, I hated large rings. I’m not much of a jewelry person and I think the majority of the ones I see lately look like costume jewelry and kind of tacky. I have heard from my friends, other friends of theirs say if they don’t get a certain ring they won’t marry them. One even demanded a 15K ring by a certain time or she’d break off the relationship entirely, because she said she would be just “wasting” her time. (They are now married, she got her ring)

Post # 65
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I have a problem when people have a sense of entitlement. I do not have a problem when people have preferences. 

Post # 66
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29 posts
Newbee

I’m kind of confused as to what Nicki Minaj’s boyfriend getting her three rings on his own accord has to do with women “demanding” a certain kind/size ring? I mean, am I the only one who read that article? It says right there that he got the rings because he wanted to. I guess that while I’m new to posting, after reading a few threads similar to this, I don’t get why people care?  I used to work with a girl who had ring “stipulations”,  and we all joked that her boyfriend was really in for it when he decided to propose. When he did, her ring didn’t match everything she dreamed, but she was in love with him, and she loved the ring she got. I’ve not encountered anyone in real life who has ever said, “I want at least x-carat or I won’t say yes” and actually meant it. 

Also, why do threads like these always involve so many people basically insulting women with big rings, referring to them as “tacky”, “gaudy”, etc? Mind your business. People like big stones, small stones, and no stones for all different reasons. Not all of them are indicitave of being a gold digger. 

Post # 67
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Buzzing bee

In Nicki Minaj’s case, I think Meek Mill is trying to crawl out from the emasculation of a) having a girlfriend who is 10x more popular and a better rapper than him, and b) getting his ass kicked in a feud that HE STARTED with Drake. (I’ve clearly been following this, ha!) I also think that celebrities feel a lot of pressure to have enormous rocks, since they’re put under a microscope all the time.

I have a non-diamond ring myself, but I just find those huge rocks so impractical. Beyonce’s is worth so much money that she keeps it in a safe and wears a fake all the time—what’s even the point of having it? I also can’t imagine how heavy and clumsy those rings must be, to wear 24/7. And most of them just look fake when they’re that big.

Post # 68
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1610 posts
Bumble bee

howdoiknow:  Aww thank you so much. She was custom made by Samara James and got a deal on my heart brilliant from antwerp (due to her stats being undesirable but I think that’s just insane!). We had what was considered a modest budget and high streets were after triple the amount to make the ring with worse quality diamond, prices can be mad. We was just lucky to get a good deal that we did, couldn’t afford much that was on the UK market that I liked. Plus heart shapes are so hard to find over here! I was ring less for over 6 months into my engagement but to me it wasn’t the most important part and it was worth the wait. Love solitaire hearts with a bit more detail and quirk!

Post # 69
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

I think a lot of people with this attitude are overcompensating. I have a friend who announced she wouldn’t accept a ring for less than $30,000, she’s never even been close to getting engaged and jumps from one bad relationship to the next.

I’m all for having preferences, I knew what kind of ring I wanted and the kind of size I prefered but I would never demand it or turn down a proposal from the man I love because the ring wasn’t up to my expectations. 

Post # 71
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Buzzing bee

Tabrett Maria:  My theory is that people have an over-inflated sense of self now, and thanks to really lax credit laws lower and middle class people have access to wayyyyyy more spending power than they used to.

Back in the day your average middle class professional guy couldn’t get the credit to buy a $8k piece of jewelry so he just bought the nicest ring he could afford in cash. Being in debt and using credit a lot was also generally looked down on and now it’s commonplace.  

So it becomes this cycle where middle and lower middle class people start having 1 carat diamond rings, so other middle and lower middle class people think they deserve 1 carat diamond rings too. It’s like a viscious cycle of debt and material goods that don’t even hold their value. 

 

 

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Post # 72
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346 posts
Helper bee

Overcompensating, overinflated sense of self, costume jewelry and tacky… really ouch. What if a person were to refer to a smaller ring as cheap and childish and the personalitlies as insecure and introverted. There would be a whole lot of ruckus.

btw. Credit laws are not lax, and people do not have access to more capital. Agencies like CFPB and other banking regulators have made sure of that.

Post # 74
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I think there’s a difference between need and want. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a large ring and if it’s your budget, that’s awesome! But demanding a certain size or you’ll say no to the proposal? Ick. That said, nothing in that article stated she demanded anything. 

Post # 75
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: A restaurant on the beach

blackinthesuburbs:  +1 

 

I love jewelry and the type and size of my engagement ring has always been important to me. However, I would never refuse my guy if he couldn’t afford what I really wanted. I’d chip in or we’d upgrade later when it was feasible to do so. 

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