(Closed) Does the bee make anyone else feel abnormal?

posted 8 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Nope. I reserve my envy for those that can afford couture gowns that I love and really huge floral budgets. Texting and calling my fiance doesn’t fall under that. I really don’t care ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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1267 posts
Bumble bee

My sweetie and I would kill each other if we called throughout the day while we were trying to work/go to school, lol!

That’s abnormal to us and we are probably abnormal to them – so whatever works for you is normal and its okay ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

hahaha. if that was the post originally written by mr. coffee, it totally cracked me up! i LOVE my FH, but we have been together for 8 years. and lived together for 6 years. he was gone all this past weekend, and while i missed him, um, i was functional and fine and kind of glad to have some alone time!

so no. don’t feel abnormal. every relationship is different and as long as you are happy with the one you are in, no worries!

Post # 6
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I completely agree – sometimes I read posts about poor bee’s who’ve had cheating FI’s and I start to freak out.  Or if people talk more or less than we do.  But I also am a total over-thinker who over analyzes too much.  But I feel ya!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yeah I can see that. Honestly, I see my Fiance maybe 3 hours a week, and just because our schedules are so busy we rarely talk throughout the day.

I think it’s important to realize that every situation is different, and that it’s difficult to compare your own to someone elses.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Even when I go out of town for business trips (usually 3-6 days) we don’t talk on the phone really… *shrug* I get my enjoyment when we are together and he is making me laugh, but sitting on the phone discussing our days sounds boring to me. I understand its not this way to everyone, and I am really not a talkative person, so maybe I am not the norm ๐Ÿ™‚

I also feel that way when I read some of the intimacy posts about how often people are intimate. I love my Fiance, but definitely not as much as some peole are loving theirs, haha. We are both happy and satisfied though, so I am not too worried about it.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I talk to my FH throughout the day, but I think it is normal not to. I usually just talk to him for a few minutes during lunch and when he gets off. I rarely talk to him alot while he is at work. The only reason why we talk so much on the phone is because we are all that we have out here. We live about 8 hours from our home town and have no friends and family here.

 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I tell my husband as long as I talk to him right before bed or first thing in the morning (when we are apart) thats enough.  I just want to know he made it to bed safe and had a good day. 

Post # 11
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412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I wouldn’t say its Normal Vs. abnormal. I really believe that it’s just a difference of habits.

While Hubby and I were in school and working full time, we would call one another on breaks, in the car or  any time we could because the chance you were getting the other person at a good time for them was random. Because of this we got into the habit of calling each other any chance we got.  Maybe your situation was different or your types of work are different and you just never got into that habit.

I also think this habit could make you my dependent on the other person and since you never got into the habit the dependence isn’t there. I donno… Just a thought.

I would not say either way is good or bad they are just different from each other.  IMO

Post # 13
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5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Haha, I am one of those annoying people who get a lot of texts.  LOL, it’s just habit! Fiance and I spend 6 months a year apart, so it’s how we stay connected.  It just seems to carry over to when we are together as well.

It works for us, if not texting constantly works for you, more power to you! Different strokes for different folks!

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

You’re not abnormal at all! (or maybe you are? I really don’t know you… but not for that stuff anyways! haha). 

I often feel like I’m the “other side” voice of things on some of the sappier posts. I didn’t “just know” with my Fiance after dating 4 months, I didn’t say I love you for over a year, it took me over two years to decide I was ready to be married and even then it wasn’t like some movie-moment of “OMG HE’S THE ONE” (I don’t believe in “the one”). My parents were not thrilled about our engagement, my budget is not unlimited, etc etc etc. 

Everyone has their own path. I think ours is pretty awesome even though it isn’t chick-flick worthy, I really don’t let other people’s movie-moments affect how I feel about my relationship.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@mc77: I personally think it would be weird to talk to my husband multiple times through the day on a regular basis. We’re both at work so we’re both busy. Unless we need to ask each other something we don’t usually talk during the day. We see each other in the morning and when we get home so we usually cover everything we need to talk about then.

However if I’m home sick I’ll call him just to say “Hi” if I’m bored and when he’s on summer break he’ll call me during the day since he’s home.

 

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