Post # 1
Or am I really just not the norm???
Am I the only one who sometimes starts to feel bad about my relationship because of some of the posts on here? I feel like I read so many posts about how relationships are and it sometimes makes me wonder if I am in a bad relationship. For example, there was a post about how much you miss your SO. Many bees wrote that they hear from their SO basically as soon as they leave for work, or that they talk all throughout the work day even if they live together. I don’t get that from my guy so it makes me wonder if it’s really just him or if I should be questioning my relationship because it isn’t even close to perfect.
Am I weird or do other bees feel the same way?
ps. this is certainly not meant to offend anyone who has a wonderful relationship and is able to say the things I’m talking about. I’m envious, not gonna lie!!!
Post # 3
Nope. I reserve my envy for those that can afford couture gowns that I love and really huge floral budgets. Texting and calling my fiance doesn’t fall under that. I really don’t care 🙂
Post # 4
My sweetie and I would kill each other if we called throughout the day while we were trying to work/go to school, lol!
That’s abnormal to us and we are probably abnormal to them – so whatever works for you is normal and its okay 🙂
Post # 5
hahaha. if that was the post originally written by mr. coffee, it totally cracked me up! i LOVE my FH, but we have been together for 8 years. and lived together for 6 years. he was gone all this past weekend, and while i missed him, um, i was functional and fine and kind of glad to have some alone time!
so no. don’t feel abnormal. every relationship is different and as long as you are happy with the one you are in, no worries!
Post # 6
I completely agree – sometimes I read posts about poor bee’s who’ve had cheating FI’s and I start to freak out. Or if people talk more or less than we do. But I also am a total over-thinker who over analyzes too much. But I feel ya!
Post # 7
Yeah I can see that. Honestly, I see my Fiance maybe 3 hours a week, and just because our schedules are so busy we rarely talk throughout the day.
I think it’s important to realize that every situation is different, and that it’s difficult to compare your own to someone elses.
Post # 8
Even when I go out of town for business trips (usually 3-6 days) we don’t talk on the phone really… *shrug* I get my enjoyment when we are together and he is making me laugh, but sitting on the phone discussing our days sounds boring to me. I understand its not this way to everyone, and I am really not a talkative person, so maybe I am not the norm 🙂
I also feel that way when I read some of the intimacy posts about how often people are intimate. I love my Fiance, but definitely not as much as some peole are loving theirs, haha. We are both happy and satisfied though, so I am not too worried about it.
Post # 9
I talk to my FH throughout the day, but I think it is normal not to. I usually just talk to him for a few minutes during lunch and when he gets off. I rarely talk to him alot while he is at work. The only reason why we talk so much on the phone is because we are all that we have out here. We live about 8 hours from our home town and have no friends and family here.
Post # 10
I tell my husband as long as I talk to him right before bed or first thing in the morning (when we are apart) thats enough. I just want to know he made it to bed safe and had a good day.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t say its Normal Vs. abnormal. I really believe that it’s just a difference of habits.
While Hubby and I were in school and working full time, we would call one another on breaks, in the car or any time we could because the chance you were getting the other person at a good time for them was random. Because of this we got into the habit of calling each other any chance we got. Maybe your situation was different or your types of work are different and you just never got into that habit.
I also think this habit could make you my dependent on the other person and since you never got into the habit the dependence isn’t there. I donno… Just a thought.
I would not say either way is good or bad they are just different from each other. IMO
Post # 12
hahaha thanks bees! You are making me feel better 🙂 Luckily this isn’t a big concern or one I would end my relationship over. Unfortunately, like @jenandchris I am a major overanalyzer/overthinker! Incredibly annoying. I especially have that problem when it comes to relationships and wondering if I am settling. It is stupid, I know, but I have this ridiculous fear of committing the rest of my life to someone only to get hurt or have it end…so I want to make the right choice the first time! I need to stop thinking so much 🙂
Post # 13
Haha, I am one of those annoying people who get a lot of texts. LOL, it’s just habit! Fiance and I spend 6 months a year apart, so it’s how we stay connected. It just seems to carry over to when we are together as well.
It works for us, if not texting constantly works for you, more power to you! Different strokes for different folks!
Post # 14
@Lindsay12.31.2010: you are NOT annoying I am just jealous hahahaha. The how much you talk to your SO thing was just an example. But in that particular case, I like to talk a lot and my SO doesn’t as much so I envy those of you with very communicative SOs
Post # 15
You’re not abnormal at all! (or maybe you are? I really don’t know you… but not for that stuff anyways! haha).
I often feel like I’m the “other side” voice of things on some of the sappier posts. I didn’t “just know” with my Fiance after dating 4 months, I didn’t say I love you for over a year, it took me over two years to decide I was ready to be married and even then it wasn’t like some movie-moment of “OMG HE’S THE ONE” (I don’t believe in “the one”). My parents were not thrilled about our engagement, my budget is not unlimited, etc etc etc.
Everyone has their own path. I think ours is pretty awesome even though it isn’t chick-flick worthy, I really don’t let other people’s movie-moments affect how I feel about my relationship.
Post # 16
@mc77: I personally think it would be weird to talk to my husband multiple times through the day on a regular basis. We’re both at work so we’re both busy. Unless we need to ask each other something we don’t usually talk during the day. We see each other in the morning and when we get home so we usually cover everything we need to talk about then.
However if I’m home sick I’ll call him just to say “Hi” if I’m bored and when he’s on summer break he’ll call me during the day since he’s home.