(Closed) Does the color of Mother(s) and Sisters dresses matter if not in the wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’ve told my mum and my future mother in law that they can wear whatever they like as long as it’s not white! I think if it doesn’t matter to you then let them wear whatever you and they like!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I know my mom and Mother-In-Law just want to blend with the BMs.   I don’t think you’ want anything to clash!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would just advise them of the colors but wouldnt force the issue. If you are worried, theres nothing like shopping with the MOB!

🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

I don’t think it matters even one tiny little bit!  As long as everyone is comfortable, who cares?:)

Post # 8
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Honey bee

No they don’t have to match anyone. Most folks won’t care either. It’s not an issue of etiquette.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My mom and Future Mother-In-Law are just looking for dresses in colors that complement my Bridesmaid or Best Man dress colors. But, I told them both that whatever they find that they like is fine by me.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree–It doesn’t matter what they wear, but it’s really nice that they’re asking.  Some brides do really care.  If you live nearby, it might be really nice to suggest a shopping trip for some group bonding.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I just asked them to not wear black, or white obviously.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I told my mom that I don’t care if she matches our colors, but she is pretty intent on at least complimenting them, which I think will look nice.  My colors are primarily gray and fuschia, and I suggested that she wear a dark blue dress, since I think that would look good with our color combo.

We are dressing my brother and father in the same tie and pocket square as the groomsmen, even though my brother isn’t in the wedding and my father is just walking me down the aisle.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t think they have to . . . We decided to have my brother match since he is doing the reading, and even though he’s not a groomsman, we want him to know that he is still a big part of the wedding.

As for dads, I’ve seen wedding have them match and not have them match (dressed to match/compliment the mother).  Honestly, my dad is color blind and a bit of a cheap-o, he hates buying new things with a passion.  I think my mom wanted him to match us so we would have an excuse to buy him a nice new tie and so we wouldn’t have to worry about him choosing one out himself!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

According to super formal ettiquette, the Bride’s mother is supposed to buy her dress first in a color complementary to the wedding colors, and then call the Groom’s mother so she can buy something similar.

Of course, it is your wedding, so do whatever you want! I told my mom she needs to buy something new (since she only has one “nice” outfit that has to be 15 years old) but I don’t care what color it is, as long as she likes it! I’m also getting tuxes for my dad and brother, since Dad’s walking me down the aisle and Brother is going to be an usher.

@LadyGoodman, my Fiance is also color-blind, yet he’s been known to argue with me about what color an object is!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I didn’t care what the Moms wore.  My Mother-In-Law was nice enough to ask me though!  It doesn’t hurt to let your Mother-In-Law know what color your Mom is wearing so she can avoid the exact same color if she wants.  This was impossible for me b/c my Mom got her dress like a month before the wedding!

Our Dads rented tuxes in the same style as the Groomsmen tuxes but with different color vests.

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