Post # 1
We are in the beginning stages of planning a wedding. Neither my Fiance or I want a big wedding. We want something on the coast or in the mountains with a guest count of approximately 75, which seemed modest. Through shopping middle-ground venues, I am beyond floored on what the total cost will be! I know it’s our wedding, but holy crap….it’s for one day! Even though my parents will be paying for the wedding, I can’t help but feel unbelievably guilty. We’ve considered a destination wedding, but the savings would mean an inconvenience for our guests. Anyone else have these feelings? Or suggestions on beautiful outdoor venues in Northern California?
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Post # 2
OMG, I feel you! I ended up getting married in SoCal because most of my guests lived there and the Bay Area was crazy expensive!
Have you looked into the botanical gardens in UC Berkeley? If I remember right, it’s fairly inexpensive to get married there. http://botanicalgarden.berkeley.edu/rentals/
Post # 3
Wedding costs can easliy skyrocket with so many sources of inspiration on social media and magazine. To curb costs, try these ideas (most worked for me)
-Set a budget and stick with it
-Buy a sample sale wedding gown
-Limit your guest list and if friends/family are unhappy, dont’t over think it. They’ll get over it.
-Visit venues and ask if there is a cheaper rate on “slow/non-wedding season” dates
-When buying flowers, try sticking to only one or two types of flowers and tell your florist that you have a specific budget and ask her to build a quote around it
-A small wedding cake is better use of your money than a huge mutl-tiered one
-Skip the wedding party: no drama and no additional costs
Post # 4
Planning a wedding is nerve wreaking and nauseating at times. The costs are obscene…. We’re keeping it casual and low key and capping at 60. Found a venue we like and they have a 60 people max. Bingo! None of that crazy growing guest list bs most people go through. We are dead set on the venue and date. 60 or under. *SIGH OF RELIEF*
Post # 5
Try some non-wedding venues. I am considering a college town bar that will give me a really good rate ($250 to rent the spacew/tables and chairs+food costs) because they don’t have any business on Sunday mornings anyway, so anything is more than what they would usually make. I was even surprised to find out they have a private back room that fits my theme perfectly.
Post # 6
I definitely had this happen to me. We have a pretty modest budget of 7K, but thought we could do something at least semi decent. Boy were we wrong. We ended up scrapping the whole thing and are doing a destination wedding. I was getting way too stressed about everything and wasn’t having fun with it anymore. I’m so glad we decided on a destination wedding.
Post # 7
It’s really hard. I was definitely very uncomfortable with how much the type of wedding we wanted would cost when we were initially doing our research and setting a budget. I found it difficult spending that much for one day, but I have to admit that having a wedding with our closest friends and family was a very special experience and I’m very glad we did it.
My advice would be to let yourself get a little bit desensitised to the costs involved (it can be a shock at first) then work out your priorities and what you’re prepared to compromise on. Once you have those ideas in place, set yourself a budget and then don’t look back. If your parents are helping and you’ve made a decision together on what to spend, don’t taint the experience with feelings of guilt or worry. Once you’ve picked your number just enjoy the planning and don’t loose any time, sleep, or energy second guessing yourself.
Post # 8
Yep! I’m 5 months out and fighting the urge to elope. When I was in Vegas last month weddings were on special, $10…
Post # 9
define NorCal. SF Bay Area will be $$$$ because high demand & fixed supply.
Look at Hopland / Sacramento – definitely cheaper than Napa / Sonoma / SF.
There are also gems in the East Bay that could be in budget.
What’s your budget?
Post # 10
THIS! This is exactly the kind of post I was just about to search for! We are very similar- want something not too crazy for around 60-75 guests, just starting looking. I’m gagging at the prices too. We aren’t expecting (or even wanting) some elaborate black-tie event, but it seems *everything* is crazy expensive. I’m really wavering on if it’s all worth it.
Post # 11
Yes! We’re only 3 months into the planning process and we’ve already increased our budget by 10K just based on costs in our area…we are doing the best we can to cut costs and save where we can.
Post # 12
Yes and no. It is SO much money, you’re right and I was also quite bullish in thinking I would be able to bring the event in for $X because I’ve planned corporate events before. Boy, have I been schooled!
But my observation is that it’s worth it to spend what you can to have a wonderful party within your budget. I see and hear so many stories from people regretting the ways in which they cut corners, and all to save not that much as a % of the overall budget in the long run, I really don’t want to be in that camp. Having said that if it was up to me we would have a registry wedding…. it’s my fiance that wants a more traditional wedding celebration.
Post # 13
Yes, the costs of throwing a wedding are ridiculous. Even with a lot of DIY. I did all of my centerpieces, doing all my own flowers except my boquet and grooms boutineer, making my own signs or bargain hunting and buying wedding stuff that people were selling on local selling sights. Besides the big stuff like a DJ, venue, and food there are sooooooo many little things that add up. I was not realistic with my budget at all. It’s depressing! Hence why I wanted to elope but nooooo, Fiance wanted a 200+ person wedding. I’m so glad it’s almost over!
Post # 14
I got schooled too. Big time. Most of the ways I tried to save money, like having my brother DJ then dropping out less than two weeks before my wedding are biting me in the ass. Thank god it’s slow season here and I could find a DJ on short notice, among other things.
Post # 15
I feel the same exact way 🙁 I also have a guest count of about 75 and am in the SF area and have been seriously shocked by the cost of everything. I have had to almost double my original budget, especially because I am having my wedding on Saturday in the summertime. I didn’t have any flexibility on that because my family lives out of the area and a number of them are teachers so I needed to ensure they had the time off to travel, but if you’re flexible on these things, Friday or Sunday weddings during non-peak season is the way to go. The food and beverage minimums at most venues are sooo much lower.