Does the date matter?

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

This is your wedding, not your parents, nor your fiance’s parents. Choose the date that you want, and the venue that you love. I would look into other venues and see if they have availability for Dec. 18 or Jan. 19. If you can’t find anuthing, then reevaluate what you want to do at that point. Don’t let anyone pressure you into making decisions if you’re not 100% sure of it. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Date wasn’t very important to me. I did have a general seasonal preference (both based on weather preferences and when we’d have the most flexibility with taking time off), but within that I was very open. We took the first date that was available at the venue we liked in the season we preferred. Of course, some people feel strongly, but for me other things were much more important. That said, I wouldn’t rush into booking if you aren’t sold on the venue. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

while i also love the idea of a winter wedding, we decided it was more practical to pick a date that was not too close to Christmas, either of our birthdays, and was also not going to be a difficult time of year for friends/family to travel.  

Post # 5
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Honey bee

beekay :  I kinda didn’t understand your info. You said you liked a venue but it’s booked up 12/18 and 1/19. On the same venue that you like, do they have anything available 2/19? You can still have a winter theme wedding in February. 

For me, we did pay attention with the date. My birthday and my SO’s birthday are already on or around major long weekends each year so we wanted something completely apart from our birthdays.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Oh God don’t get me started on the debacle that was our wedding date discussion. My future in-laws were just impossible (can’t be during the school year because how dare we assume that taking one day off of school is acceptable…can’t be during the holidays because how dare we assume that people would be willing to use their vacation time for our wedding, yada yada yada). And my fiance is super conflict-averse as well so he was admittedly no help. 

We ended up being obsequious and picking a June date, so our engagement will be 20 months long. But I don’t really regret it! Time is flying pretty fast.

While I’m all for the “it’s your wedding do what YOU want” it can be hard to go against family. So I totally understand where you’re coming from. 

If I were you, I would slow down just a little. If you rush things, you might do something you regret (like pick a shifty venue – yikes). If a winter wedding means THAT much to you, I would push it to December 2019, as long as your fiance is okay with it and no one except your Future Mother-In-Law has a problem with it. Your Future Mother-In-Law will come around, trust me. She’s probably just excited, naturally. And if she’s the only reason you’re feeling stressed, that’s hardly fair to you and your fiance.

So if I were you, I would just relax and take that extra time to plan, save up money, actually pick my dream venue, and all that good stuff 🙂  

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I recommend you search the venues you’re considering on Instagram under ‘Places’. You’ll be able to scroll back and compare how each looked at real events in different times of the year. 

If you’re in the US, I can’t recommend using the NOAA enough! If you search for your local station through this link, you’ll be able to see historical weather reports for every hour of every day going back decades! It was really useful for me to pick a date that was least likely to be cold or rainy. https://www.ncdc.noaa.gov/cdo-web/datatools/lcd

 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would suggest looking at the other venues. After you do that sit down and choose which one you want. If there is no availability until 2019 and if you are ok with that then wait until 2019.. it is your wedding!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I had a winter wedding because my husband did not want to wait a year to get married.  We got engaged in May and married in December because he really liked one particular restaurant to have our reception at and their first date available was in December.

We couldn’t do any pictures outside because the weather was so bad so you couldn’t really tell what season we were married.  I kind of wished we had waited until spring or summer to be honest.

I would hold out for the venue you want.  Also realize that most of your pictures are not going to look like Pinterest unless you’re spending nearly 6 figures on your wedding.  While some venues are nicer than others, it’s only one day.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

beekay :  I would have liked an April wedding but ended up getting married in February for a variety of reasons including it being available, cheaper and it not being the busy time at my husband’s work. We had a winter/spring wedding. So it was still cold where we got married and we had wintery capes. However, the spring flowers were coming into season and so I had a fantastic spring bouquet that was really cheap.

I actually really loved our February wedding and I found a lot of meaning for the date we chose. When you look for things you can find more reason to make a date special. For example, we were able to get married on the same day of the month that we had our first date, 2 weeks after my birthday, 3 weeks before his, on my grandparents anniversary AND when we had been together for 70 months  which all made my numbers-nerd husband very happy and myself happy for sentimental reasons. Without all that though, that day would have been special regardless.

There’s only you who can say how important a date is. If the date is more important than getting married sooner, then delay until the following year. If you just want to be married and don’t want to wait, take the February date. There’s no right or wrong, just what works for you two.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I think you should find the venue you love first, and then worry about the date. It doesn’t sound like you’re sold on this venue, so keep looking! When you find the perfect venue, you can see what dates they have available and make a decision from there.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Since there doesn’t seem to be any reason to rush, I would wait and see, as long as you don’t mind waiting until winter 2019. Find a venue that you love, and if they don’t have any Dec/Jan dates available for 2018, that just means more time to plan the perfect wedding!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

beekay :  Sure it’s your wedding and do what you want, but be flexible.

I would have preferred a fall wedding, but Fiance and I didn’t want a long engagement, nor did we want to plan an early spring wedding, so we settled on mid July (next week OMG). Our logic was – he’s a teacher so would be out, I could accrue vacation time, it would be the week after the 4th of July so maybe not crossing with other people’s vacations too much. I never specifically “wanted” a wedding in the middle of the summer but I’m so happy with the date we ended up choosing. Friday July 13th.

My best advice is don’t obsess. Weather can be tricky in winter, even if you live somewhere warm, if you have family flying in flights can be delayed canceled etc so remember that.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Canada

What about November of 18? I wanted a December wedding with a sort of Christmas-y feel, but the hall was all booked up in Dec. I took the last Saturday in November and am still going with the same theme.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I would keep looking. Try WeddingWire ask around. For me I wanted at least a year and for the weather to be cool I was aiming for this fall but it ended up being April 2019. If you really want a winter wedding keep looking or consider the following year.

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