(Closed) Does the grooms family need to walk down the aisle?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Okay for his parents not to walk down the aisle?
    Yes -- it's up to the bride and groom : (15 votes)
    52 %
    No -- they definitely need to walk down the aisle : (14 votes)
    48 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee

    I think it is definitely up to you. I have seen instances where the groom will seat his mother and then go and sit at the front until the service begins. It is less formal and not done during the processional. This might be an option if his mother really wants to be formally seated but if no one cares than it is completely up to you.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Well, I think most weddings I’ve been to, both sets of parents walk down the aisle. The guys parent’s usually go first, with all the grandparents. But I would say, ask his parents what they want. If it’s important for them to walk up the aisle, I’d say let them. If they don’t care and would rather just sit, let them. I don’t think it’s a huge deal either way, as long as they don’t mind.

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Yes that is fine. This is what you have ushers for. They will escort the grooms parents / family to their seats. I plan on having my FI’s mother escorted by the Bestman before the actual ceremony starts. That way everyone knows her importance in the marriage.

     

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My father will walk me down and his dad will be walking considering my Fiance chose him as his best man. We will not have any other parents that aren’t in the party walk.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee

    His parents should walk down the aisle. It’s their special day too.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    You should see how your future IL’s feel about that. As far as I’m concerned, the parents of the bride and groom are part of the wedding party and should be recognized as so. I’ve only ever attended one wedding where the parents didn’t walk in the processional and that was more of a backyard BBQ type of event so they didn’t really go the traditional route with anything.  

    My IL’s as well as both of our grandmothers and my aunt and uncle walked in our processional. The grandparents and special relatives are one thing but I personally think that if your parents are walking (even if they’re escorting you), then the grooms parents should get to walk to. I know that my Mother-In-Law would have been upset if we just told them to sit there like the rest of the guests. 

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @serenitymd:  I think his parents walk up the aisle just by virtue of them being the groom’s parents.  It is up to you, but that is the way it has been at every wedding I have been to.

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Traditionally they don’t techinically “walk down the aisle” not like the bride and BM’s do.

    They are just seated last by the ushers.

    They come in before all of the bridal party, but after the bulk of the guests.

    I guess it might depend on the structure of your ceremony space, but I don’t see why it would be a big deal.

    Post # 11
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    They should walk down the aisle too.  They are more than just “guests” at your wedding, even if they are specifically part of the wedding party.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Every wedding I’ve been to they walked down the aisle….and most of them they were escorted down the aisle with the groom, so that when the groom takes his place they can take their seats (or take their position under the chuppah at a Jewish wedding).

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I had wanted Fiance to walk his mother down the aisle but he is so caught up on what he’s SEEN at other weddings and this was not done. I told him that his HAS to be kinda different because we are having our wedding outside whereas hes only been to weddings where the officiant/groom/and bestman can just pop up out the back of the church. SO his parents will just be seated last. They will walk down this concrete path before the aisle runner is put down and before processional starts. Other guests SHOULD know the importance of them, I mean they are going to be seated front row where signs will say ‘reserved’. 

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think it’s definitely up to you.  But you could just do the seating of the parents at the beginning before the ceremony starts.  

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