Post # 1
I am new to this whole Maid/Matron of Honor thing and I was wondering if the Maid/Matron of Honor has to do a speech at the wedding reception. I know the Bridesmaid or Best Man does but I have never seen the Maid/Matron of Honor do one. Please enlighten me. I am the Maid/Matron of Honor for a wedding next Saturday so I want to make sure that I am prepared.
Post # 3
I think usually either the FOB or FOG usually begins the toasts. And then the head groomsman or bro of groom makes a toast..and if and she wishes, the Maid/Matron of Honor does. Then it’s pretty much whoever wants to at that point.
I’d have a nice, short sweet speech ready just in case.
Post # 4
The Maid/Matron of Honor definitely makes a speech! When else do you get to publicly declare your love for your best friend/sister?? As Maid/Matron of Honor, I got to make a speech at my best friend’s wedding last July, and it was a really special moment for both of us. I can’t wait to hear what she, and my other Maid/Matron of Honor, have to say in their speeches at my wedding. When I daydream about our wedding, one of the things I am most looking forward to is hearing my girls’ toasts at the wedding!
Post # 5
Yes! Both dads, the best man and the moh all give speeches!!!
Post # 6
Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t have to if she doesn’t want to, unlike the BM- but it is nice to do. If not at the wedding, the rehearsal dinner is another place she can do it.
Post # 7
Great Ladies! Thank you so much!!
I will definitely be prepared. Like I had mentioned in my post I have never seen an Maid/Matron of Honor make a toast. This will be a new experience for me. A way to put my public speaking skills to the test lol… PS: I am hoping to not pass out!!
Post # 8
I was Maid/Matron of Honor at my friends wedding in October & it honestly never occured to me that the Maid/Matron of Honor should be prepared to say something. I’ve never seen it done at any wedding I’ve been to so I didn’t even think about it. Then afte the BM’s speach, she turned to us & asked if any of us wanted to say anything. I was holding her baby & sitting at the end of the table talking to her brother & I didn’t even hear her. One of the other girls asked me if I wanted to say something & I just panicked & said no. About 30 minutes later I felt horrible & talked to her about it. If I had to do it again, I would definitely have a little something prepared.
Post # 9
Traditionally, the Bridesmaid or Best Man gives a speech but more often than not, lately the Maid/Matron of Honor gives a speech as well.
When I was a Maid/Matron of Honor for my sister’s wedding, I opted not to do a speech and instead wrote my "toast to the couple" in a nice card for them.
Post # 10
If needed, I think I have a cute little speech in mind! I will share with you if it turns out well! Thanks for the advice!!
Post # 11
Ask your bride my dear.
Often times the Best man and Maid of honor make speeches. But some prefer one or the other, and sometimes they jsut stick to the Dads. She may have it in her head that the way she is thinking of it is the way everyone does it and hasnt thought to tell you because she assumes everyone knows. Or she may not be planning on you gving a speech and didnt think she needed to point out that you did need to make a speech. Just ask. She’ll understand, and you ‘ll be informed! 🙂
Post # 12
I think it’s kinda up to the bride. I’ve been to weddings where just the FOB and FOG and Bridesmaid or Best Man give speeches, but i’ve also been to some where the Maid/Matron of Honor gives a speech as well.
Post # 13
So the wedding came and gone and I did not have to give a speech (yay!! ). I didn’t even have to ask the bride either. They only expected the Best Man to give a speech and what a great speech it was.
As the other ladies had mentioned what I learned is to either ask the bride or be prepared to do one.