(Closed) Does this come off as cheap?

posted 10 years ago in Food
  • poll: What would you do?

    Spend the money to get unlimited non-alcoholic beverages.

    Let the guests drink water.

    Let the guests drink water and pay for the toast of champagne.

    You're going to come off as cheap.

    The guests will not care either way.

  • Post # 48
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    WOW.. that seems like alot for non alcoholic drinks. Can you provide your own?? I think you should ask if you can provide nice containers with ice tea or lemonade or some kind of punch. Or maybe put pitchers on the table, or a juice bar!

    Post # 49
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    @Ctinaditty: Good Luck! But before you fork out the 1500$ ask if you can provide a few containers of your moms favorite drink.. maybe they will feel fuzzy inside and let it go 🙂

    Post # 50
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I agree with others that $1500 for soda sounds crazy – see if you can negotiate that down, but I think you need to provide drink options.  I drink water all the time, but I still think I’d find it extremely odd if there were no other options at a wedding.

    Post # 52
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    Helper bee

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    @Ctinaditty: I’m glad you figured out a good compromise! Make sure your guests know there will be a cash bar (pass the word around, put it on the invites, etc) so they know to bring cash if they want alcohol.

    Post # 53
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    Bumble bee

    Since we aren’t having alcohol at the wedding, we decided to buy pop, juice, water, and tea in glass bottles. It looks classier than cans and is so much cheaper to buy it yourself opposed to having a caterer or the venue (usually at least). I think having something other than water is much better than just having water.

    Post # 54
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Oh I read the poll wrong.  DOH!

    I would spend the money on non-alcoholic drinks, but $10 per person for non-alcoholic drinks seems really high.  I would negotiate with them.

    Post # 55
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @Ctinaditty: Wait, so will soda cost money too? Or just alcoholic drinks? As a guest I’d be really confused/put off if I went to the bar and ordered a diet coke and was charged for it.

    If soda will cost money, it should be clearly displayed on the bar so people aren’t caught by surprise.

    Post # 56
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think we are all in probably a somewhat similar situation. We are paying for a fruit punch fountain at our venue which is only another $300 or so for the added drink option. I didn’t want guests drinking only water either. However come to think of it we were recently guests at a wedding that served only water and we didn’t think anything of it…

    Post # 57
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    why dont you just do tea, lemonade, and water?? that shouldnt cost 1500$$

    Post # 58
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    Sugar bee

    I think the minimum amount of hospitatlity you owe your guests is to have a selection of non-alcoholic beverages.

    I would be very offended if I took time out of my day to come to your wedding, buy you a gift, and celebrate with you to be told that I would need to pay for my own apple juice or pop.  It is not just cheap, but offensive.

    Post # 60
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    if you aren’t doing alcohol then yeah, i think you have to provide something besides water for your guests.  would you ever have a party and just offer water?  if your answer to this is yes, then that’s a whole other conversation lol

    Post # 61
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We are having a lunch reception and having an open host bar. We are going to host up to a certain ammount and then when it reaches there they are going to notify us and then we can choose to continue or not. We plan on continueing but we are using it as a gauge as to where we are in terms of costs.

    I think also ther perception of “cheap” or not is going to be based on the type of guests you have. If it’s an intimate small wedding with mostly family they will understand because they are there for you. However for those family friends and more distant people they may feel it is “cheap”. 

    The cash bar seems to work out great. at least you are giving people the option to drink if they want to. the last two weddings I attended were cash bars.

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