Post # 1
I just got a FB message from my aunt saying they just got the invite and to count them in. So do I count that as my RSVP and not saying anything or do I wait a week or two for the card to come back and say “We are so happy you are coming! Would you please send back the card though for my tracking.”
Post # 3
I would say that to be safe. I’d rather have the concrete confirmation.
Post # 4
Oh no have I just stepped into the RSVP hell that others have talked about
Post # 5
that sounds like an rsvp. is there any additional info on the card you need, like meal choice or something?
Post # 6
@kitzy No other info I need other then the two of them are coming. I just am trying to keep everything organized and want the card back. Maybe that makes me a difficult bride. I am sure it is a factor that in New Orleans lots of people don’t RSVP so I am guessing this might be as good as I get.
Post # 7
@Nola:let it go. you got the rsvp. i guess i just don’t understand why the card is important.
Post # 8
i would count it as a rsvp but i would also send the short message you mentioned now while it’s fresh instead of later. you worded it very well. i liked using the rsvp cards to help with table arrangements so when i called for rsvps that were not received, i asked if they could also mail the cards back. (not to mention it’s annoying to spend that much on postage for the rsvps and not have them used.)
Post # 9
If you need further information (like meal choice) I’d say follow up. If not, just leave it and count it as confirmed.
Post # 10
Yep. Counts as your RSVP. You could still ask for the card but that counts.
Post # 11
I would send them a FB message like “I am SO glad the two of you are going to be here. Can I ask you to send back the Rsvp so I can have the replies for my wedding scrap book, I would really appriciate it. Love you and can’t wait to see you.”
Should get you the card back.
Post # 12
“R.s.v.p.” means “Respondez s’il vous plait” (“reply please”); and your aunt has replied. You’re going to look bureaucratic and controlling if you try to insist on them following your organization routine.
If you are using the cards to set up a card-file, then get some index cards and cut them to the same shape as your R.s.v.p. cards, and use them to make a note of the people who R.s.v.p. in the traditional way (by a note on their own stationery) or by one of the new-fangled ways (facebook, email, text). Don’t try to make your guests follow your assumed procedures: they are guests, not employees.
I didn’t know there were still hostesses using cardfiles to organize their guestlists. They were popular in the seventies and eighties, but spreadsheets and databases are so much more versatile I thought the cardfile had gone the way of the dodo — I use postgres SQL. Goes to show it isn’t always us “older people” aren’t always the ones who are less computer-savvy.
Post # 13
Yes, that’s a reply! Has you RSVP date come up yet? Your aunt might still send you the card in the post but if it’s important to you to get it back then send her a friendly message like people here suggested.
Post # 14
@Nola: I guess that makes me a difficult bride too because I’d want the card back. LOL!
@tksjewelry: I love this response!
I’d try to give a gentle reminder to have them send back the RSVP card but I wouldn’t pursue it too much if it doesn’t happen.
Post # 15
Yes, that is a reply. She is tacky for not sending the card back but I wouldn’t bother bringing this to her attention.
Post # 16
@tksjewelry: that’s a great idea!