Post # 32
While I see your point, I think you’re over-reacting. Your Future Mother-In-Law went to a nice shop, asked for help, and spent a fortune on a fancy dress. To me that means she REALLY tried hard to fine something appropriate! It probably hurt her feelings when you reacted coldly to her choice. My mother wore a dress with a small train and my Mother-In-Law wore a champagne ball gown. They both looked lovely and nobody confused them with me. Her dress is taking nothing away from you. Why are you so angry?
Post # 33
I think it does look like a wedding dress, and I’m pretty surprised the NM personal shopper did not point that out. But if she got in in champagne, I can also see how she did not entirely see that. I’m guessing it’s a really formal wedding, and maybe she’s not used to these things. But I can still see why you’re upset. maybe the best thing to do is to give her the benefit of the doubt that she’s really not trying to upstage you but rather didn’t know any better. You or your Fiance could ask her to wear something different…and I think that’s a totally appropriate thing to do.
Post # 34
She CANNOT wear that dress! I don’t care how great her body is!
Post # 35
Hell, I’d let her wear it!
She’s going to look ridiculous and dated in it. She can’t help but not to!
I dunno what things are like in Denver, but here in the South, doing something that crass will getcha laughed at for a looooonnnnngggg time!
You’re the bride, and if anything, letting her wear it will show confidence and grace on your part. It will most definitely NOT detract from you. Everyone will know who the bride is, and if anything, just feel a little more sympathy for you having a Mother-In-Law who is obviously monkeys**t!!
Smile and nod honey. Sometimes you can’t stop someone from looking ridiculous. Just tell your Fiance that you have no problem with her wearing it, but that she won’t be in any of the wedding pictures. Then let her make up her mind. Tell her it’s bad luck to have two wedding dresses in the same bridal pictures. *grin*
Post # 36
I don’t think it looks like a wedding dress. I think it looks like she is wrapped in aluminum foil. If she wants to look gross let her wear it…….It will only make you look even more beautiful.
Post # 37
Don’t worry about her dress. I don’t think anybody will be confused and think of her as the bride (unless you invited people who doesn’t know how you look like). She will make a fool out of herself if her dress is more bridal than yours and if she acted as a bride on your wedding day.
And don’t worry, she won’t be included in all your pictures. And in your wedding album, just put 1 or 2 pictures of her to get even (just kiddingggg!).
Post # 38
Have you talked to anyone about this? I’d be really curious as to what everyone else thinks (as for the Maid/Matron of Honor, Fiance, Mom, etc)
Post # 39
- Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens
OMG. This is terrible!!!! I think that you should DEMAND that she takes it back! What a beeotch!!
Post # 40
you could always ask if you could borrow it after the wedding to go as leftovers for haloween…
Post # 41
it’s SOOOOO wrong for her to wear it, and you are obviously upset. do you want us to call and tell her she should choose something else?
love, all your future bride best friends here =)
Post # 42
I talked to my Fiance and he doesn’t want to be caught in the middle which ok I can understand but….. I am going to take a few days to decide what I am going to say to her, I will not be rude, sassy or tasteful but I will let her know how I feel. Most of all I am hurt.
snmcdowell to answer your question of "why are you so angry", we’ll it is called having respect for other people, not only feelings but just class. I am not sure if you had to deal with this with your wedding but until you do then your feelings might change. More power to you if you can deal with it but believe me I am not afraid to say that I was angry at first but now I am just hurt.
Post # 43
Eww… it looks like it was left crumpled in a ball on the closest floor and she couldn’t find anything else to wear! If you have a good relationship with her, you might want to sit down and talk with her about it.
Post # 44
Fiance needs to deal with this asap.
It IS a wedding gown. And that is not appropriate at your wedding.
Post # 45
I agree that yes it is a wedding gown. However, weddings teach you that sometimes you must pick and choose your battles. Yes, your Future Mother-In-Law chose to purchase a wedding gown in very poor taste. However, you are the young, beautiful, glowing bride. Besides looking odd in photos, I promise most people will not be so distracted by her attire that it will ruin the day. You have the right to kindly express your concerns with her, but in the long run, you have to choose if this is something truly so bothersome that you would wish to cause a possible fight over it.
Post # 46
Her personal shopper should be fired! What, did she go in there and say, "I really want to wear a wedding dress to my FDIL wedding. Can you help me ruin it by wearing a dress that is probably inappropriate for my age and the situation."
I am so sorry.
Maybe if she hasn’t picked up the dress you could have the personal shopper tell her that the dress has a material flaw and is being recalled, only to be replaced with navy blue or something, maybe even something with straps 🙂