Post # 1
boy its been a while for me on the waiting list (2 years)!
a little backstory: we are both in our 20s, he’s 3 years younger. we’ve been together for 3 years, and know each other for around 10, basically grew up together. he’s my soulmate and best friend, I love him deeply and I know it’s mutual. we started having marriage talks 1 year into the relationship – at one point he even asked my ring size, but the path has been rocky for both of us – switching jobs, unemployment, lack of money, moving several times, going back to school etc. but we both stayed strong and were very open to the idea of marriage “when the time is right”.
fast forward to now: we are going on a 3 week vacation (starting 2 days before my birthday) and:
– he invited a mutual friend to join us in one of the cities for 3 days (my bday and 2 more) “so that someone could take pics of us together” (after a 3 year relationship we probably have 10 pics together at most, he’s usually not into pictures at all)
– sent me a gif where a boy is blowing out birthday candles wishing his mom and dad got married and dad proposing to mom straight away, signed “cool right?” lol
– asked me out of the blue if I’m gonna do my nails before the trip..he usually couldn’t care less lol
we also had a moment few days ago when I playfully teased him saying he probably doesn’t remember any of our important dates as a couple and he teased me back “well I remember (my bday date), shouldn’t it be enough?” I said bs, that’s MY date not OURS and he only smiled back at me..silly I know..
so I am certainly trying not to get my hopes up and looking forward to enjoy our vacation no matter what, but my waiting mind keeps playing tricks on me..do you think these things he does look like hints or am I just imagining things cos I want to marry him so badly? lol
also, what are the hints your SO is/was giving you that made you think he’s about to pop the q? I’m just curious 🙂
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2022 - Grand Rapids, MI
Personally, I don’t think anything of it. It sounds promising, but he may know that you’re expecting a proposal, so he might propose before the trip, or even after you get home. I’m dating my so long distance for 2 1/2 years, but no proposal yet. His nephew even asked after 1 year of dating in front of my so “are you proposing?” He said no, but everyone was thinking that as he held a jewelry box and was on one knee; it ended up being a bracelet. My situation is that he bought the ring and is now trying to get financially ready for a wedding in about 1 1/2 years. I’m going to school for medical coding and I’ll graduate in June, so he wants to do it then.
Post # 3
Have you guys talked about a timeline for marriage?
Post # 4
blissfulheart : yeah, about a year ago we agreed upon 2 years timeline and longish (6-12 months) engagement (due to personal reasons). but he always said he would like it to be a surprise so…
Post # 5
naiade : Mmmmm could be or it could be nothing, try not to get your hopes up. Have a fab trip and a great birthday and hopefully he will propose, but if he doesn’t please don’t let it ruin the whole trip.
Post # 6
I think the nails is a positive sign but keep an open mind and enjoy the celebrations. Let’s us know if anything happens and keep an open mind.
Post # 7
Hubs and I went on vacation. I was hopeful it would happen over the trip. He sat me down a week before we left and told me that he wants to pay off one more student loan before he buys my ring.
I cried. I was pretty bummed.
So needless to say it was a total surprise when he popped the question in my favorite place in the whole world!
TBH, I’m glad he did that. Or else it wouldn’t have been as fun. I usually figure things out, so it was nice that he caught me completely off guard.
Post # 8
MsBeer : I agree with MsBeer. I think it looks promising, but like you said, you could be just zoning in on those little details because you’re wanting it so bad. I voted “yes” but would reiterate MsBeer’s point that IF it doesn’t happen, don’t let it ruin your birthday or trip!
Post # 9
I think it sounds positive but you have to decide to enjoy your trip either way and not be upset and let it ruin the trip if he doesn’t. When I was waiting I let my expectations ruin too many occasions that would have been otherwise awesome. So be excited, but don’t get your hopes too high and enjoy yourself regardless!
Post # 10
Very positive! Remember to enjoy your trip together even if it doesn’t happen!
Post # 11
It could be signs or it could be absolutely nothing.
I almost hate these posts because 9/10 of them end up being nothing and then the bee comes back posting about how terrible their trip was or they come back after the guy proposes two months later and complains that the proposal wasn’t good enough going all “Why didn’t he just propose on the trip?!?!”
I know waiting sucks but it almost gives girls false spidey senses and they start to turn everything nice their guy does into a “sign.” Just enoy being with your SO and have a good trip.
Post # 12
That sounds REALLY promising! If it isn’t his plan, he sure knows how to lead a girl on, haha!
Post # 13
thanks for your input, bees! I promise I won’t ruin the trip for myself and SO, I’m really excited about it no matter what. will just go with the flow and enjoy it either way.
Post # 14
princessg56 : I just wanted to comment because I saw you’re in school in medical coding 😊 I graduated January 2016. Been working in the field for a year and a half now. I love it!
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2022 - Grand Rapids, MI
Awesome! I just wanted to let you know that it does sound really promising, but you never know. My so was gonna propose this year, but had a pay cut and then moved to a cheaper place. So he’s gonna propose in June, so I think it’ll be soon.