Post # 1
Hi everyone 🙂 this is my first ever post! I have had sneak peeks at this site a few times (heaps!) over the last year though (secret pleasure)….
I think my bf of 4 and 1/2 years might be getting closer to popping the question! He is adamant that I don’t have any part of planning my ring/proposal and I think that is very sweet, but he also knows me well enough to know I that I sold jewellery a while back and defiantly have an opinion so… a few weeks back he asked me to get together some ideas and pics of what I like and then save the file to our computer to give him some direction when the time comes 🙂 now my dilemma is: I’ve written up the file, but now I’m scared it’s too detailed and might scare him half to death that I’ve researched like I have…eeek! So if any Boy Bees or Bees that have been in a similar situation would check it out and give me feedback before I give to him would be much appreciated.
Once I have given it to him though I vow to Shut-It-Up, I read that on here a few days ago and think it is defiantly the way to go
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - Makena Cove
@Berrymagick: Welcome to the Bee! I think it’s definitely fair to say you’re in waiting 🙂 if he asked about ring details then that’s exactly what you gave him. If it’s a bit much, he’ll mention it some way Im sure (or clarify it with you?) good luck!
Post # 4
Welcome to waiting!
I’d say don’t shut it up until you know for sure you are both on the same page. Right now it seems like he is kind of thinking of it in the abstract, so if you want to move things along he might need small bits of encouragement, just to keep it at the front of his mind. Maybe showing him you have considered this seriously will help him realize that you are considering it in a concrete way and not just a “someday” way. But the signs do sound promising.
Post # 5
@Fleur.De.Lis: Thanks for the welcome! 🙂 It’s nice to be on here properly now, not just watching….yay ‘in waiting’ seems like a fun place to start
I got the courage last night to show him, and I warned him prior it is pretty detailed- he took a look with me and said it was perfect and if anything it needed more pictures! haha, poor guy, he obviously wants to do this alone but he is nervous about getting it wrong 🙂
I hope his ‘someday’ isnt far away! We are both 27 early next year and openly talk about wanting children together…fingers crossed 2013 sometime
Post # 6
I’m glad it went so well. I sent my guy tons and tons of pictures, they like pictures
Post # 7
Thank you for your great advice, weeks after giving him ring ideas he still didnt seem any more involved with the idea of getting married, except in the ‘someday kind of way’…i had a open conversation with him and explained it was hard to sit back passivly in such a big part of my life. It went really, really well, so thanks again effie!
Post # 8
No problem! Hope to hear a proposal story before too much longer 😀