Post # 1
I have really enjoyed about 90% of the wedding planning up to now. I like putting our personal touches on everything and making things unique and meaningful. But favors I just don’t get. Yes, I’ll admit that I remember every favor that I’ve ever gotten. I definitely like food favors (who wouldn’t?). But we’re paying for the wedding ourselves and are buying VERY generous gifts for our parents and wedding party. And we’re doing an open bar (possibly limited to beer, wine & a signature drink).
Are favors really necessary? My sister (who got married last year and loves all things wedding) thinks we’ll look cheap if we don’t do SOMETHING, even if it’s a small donation.
Post # 3
I don’t get the favors thing either and won’t be doing them. And no, I don’t think you’ll look cheap at all.
Post # 4
I’ve struggled with favors too. But I always have to keep reminding myself about our guests. I think a lot of the time we brides can get too focused on the amount of money we are paying for the wedding, and totally forget about the expenses all the guests have in order to attend the wedding. These could include hotel, airfare, gas, a gift, an outfit, etc. So I think you should at least do something, especially if your family members think you need to.
Post # 5
I highly doubt we will be doing anything. I never understood favors–every favor I have ever gotten at a wedding has been tossed in the trash or holed away somewhere, never to be seen again. Unless I find something really cool and cheap, I won’t bother.
Post # 6
I’m with you on the favors thing-but a lot of people are of the mindset “if you don’t gt me a favor why should I buy you a gift.” Or they get mad if you make a donation in their name. It’s really silly and petty since you are hosting a big party for them to attend so I must be missing something.
Post # 7
We’re not doing favors! I don’t think people will really be looking for them or be upset that they don’t get one, so I say don’t do it if you really don’t want to!
Post # 8
I think it’s important to recognize that, YES, there WILL be some people at your wedding who are shocked and offended (maybe even your sister) that you’re not giving them seven jordan almonds in an organza bag with a bow.
Does that justify having to do favors? No.
I would guess that the majority of your guests won’t notice/miss favors. Afterall, they probably aren’t aware of all the cool favor ideas floating around Wedding World, and probably think favors don’t extend past those jordan almonds. 🙂
Post # 9
Just a thought, but have you attended a wedding before where there were no favors? What did you think?
I can’t remember attending a favorless wedding so it’s probably something I’d notice.
If you really don’t want to have favors, then don’t. But if you kind of do want them and money is an issue, there are really inexpensive things you could do. My cousin did a handful of hershey kisses wrapped in tulle and tied with a little bow.
Post # 10
I’m really not into favors either. I’ve never kept the ones I’ve gotten unless they were food. So I imagine a lot of people feel the same way. I don’t plan on doing them. If we look cheap to some guests, I kinda don’t care!
Post # 11
I’m not doing favors. Basically because I can’t remember a single favor I have ever taken home with me from a wedding. There have been some food items, but mostly, nothing memorable. I would rather spend the money on something else! Don’t worry about looking cheap. If anything, some people might feel relieved to not be obliged to take home something they really don’t want!
Post # 12
We had favors because mom was like “omg you MUST have them” and frankly, they were kinda fun to have. I like party favors, haha. But really, I don’t think 90% of guests care if you have them. If i could go back, I’d do a cookie bar or something like what Mrs. Dumpling did and do milks, too. Snacks are always good on your way out the door. Usually by 11 or 12pm, if you ate at 5 or 6, it’s time to eat something. At least for me =]
Post # 13
if you’re worried about not having ANY favours you could always go the donation route – do a small amount that you’re comfortable with and just tell them you made ‘a donation in their honour’.
they don’t need to know how much, because as far as they know you could have donated a few thousand!
Post # 14
Wedding favours were created by the wedding industry for another thing for planning brides to spend money on.
The idea of a party in general is you host a party (food, alcohol, fun atmosphere/music etc.) and the guests bring a host a gift. Your gift to them is the party.
That being said if people want to have favours and have in the budget I am all for it.
When I first came to wedding bee there were 2 posts: one that said “what favours do you hate to get” and one that said “what favours do you love to get” almost all the different types of favours were on each post it was really funny (even edible ones). You can’t please everyone and those posts were what made me decide to not give a favour and do an extra hour of open bar instead!
Post # 15
The only favor I’ve ever kept was a small framed photo of the bride and groom. I put it on my desk at work.
We’re doing a donation to an organization that I used to intern for. If we didn’t have a personal connection like that, we’d probably opt out of the favor idea altogether.
Post # 16
We are paying for our wedding too. Some of the foodie favors that we LOVED were just way out of our budget. We toyed with the idea of old fashioned candy sticks at each place setting… no dice…
Finally, we happened upon a recipe for a spiced drink mix that can easily be made at home and can be used to make apple cider or spiced wine. I just ordered our cone shaped bags and the entire project should cost us less than 50 cents per person.
With a 200+ guest list, we were determined not to spend more than a dollar for something awesome.
I think if it is something important to you, you can make it work… That said, if you’d rather use that money to do something else for the benefit of your guests, you can totally get away with skipping favors. 🙂