Does this really sound like I am pressurizing him?

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 2
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

He may be a catfish.

Post # 3
2625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

This is too much drama so early on. I bet he has a live in girlfriend or is married. 

Dump and move on!!

Post # 4
412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I think he sounds like a jerk, but I also think you sound a bit needy. You are also allowed to call him if you want to talk, you don’t have to wait for him! But anyways, I’d say this does not sound like it will end well, and I would just put it to bed now; you shouldn’t have to work that hard, that early on!

Post # 5
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

You haven’t even met this guy. He only talks to you when he’s driving. Stop acting like you’re actually in a relationship with him and move on.

Post # 7
328 posts
Helper bee

Sorry to be harsh, but this is not a relationship. This man is wasting your time. Move on immediately.

Post # 8
2 posts

He told you what he feels and your going to question it to a room full of internet strangers? 


Yeah, I agree it sounds like your pressuring him WAY to hard and are acting like your in a relationship with this man when you clearly not. Maybe it just since I’m a female but this level of attachment this early on is concerning and would give me all sorta red flags too. 

Post # 9
127 posts
Blushing bee

I’m not gonna say you’re needy or anything because I don’t know you personally and this is one post on the internet; BUT I will say that it sounds like you’re giving 100% to this potential relationship and this guy is giving 10%. I wouldn’t focus all of your efforts on someone who doesn’t want to focus a lot of effort on you, you’re wasting your time. Besides, you’re not officially dating despite him saying there are no other women at this time. I would branch off and consider your dating pool, potentially consider not pursuing him anymore. 

Post # 10
3782 posts
Honey bee

Oy. You are acting so DESPERATE; that’s not a good look on anyone. You dont know anything about this man. It’s likely he’s feeding you some bullshit story and you’re taking it hook, line and sinker. Stop acting like this guy is the last man on earth. He’s not interested in you. At all. Move on. 

Post # 11
22 posts

he is in a relationship of somesort 

Post # 12
1541 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’ll say this bluntly….he’s grooming his sidepiece.  That would be you. Guys who are serious don’t act evasive and don’t fuck around like this guy is.

Stop wasting your time and find someone who can give you their actual time.

Post # 13
136 posts
Blushing bee

optimisticstar :  what on earth are you getting/enjoying from this? It sounds ridiculous- block his number and find someone decent and less shady. 

Post # 14
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Why are you investing so much of your time and energy on someone you dont even know?  No matter how many times you’ve talked online or on the phone, no matter what you’ve talked about or how sweetly he spoke about his intentions, you do not know him. 

You could literally sit down next to him on a park bench and not even know it.  He could make you a cup of coffee at Starbucks and you wouldn’t know it.  He could check your blood pressure at the doctors office and you wouldn’t know it! 

You are not in a relationship with this man, and based on what you have shared here you’re not going to be.  You shouldn’t have to work so hard to start a relationship.  Block this guy on all fronts and find someone who wants to have a REAL relationship with you.

Post # 15
11802 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I’ll say the same exact thing I said to you on your last thread of this kind. Unfortunately, you’re still in fantasy land. You do not know this person at all, nor do you have a real relationship. All of this drama before even your first date is just insane. And yes, he’s most likely involved with someone else or seeing others. 

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