Post # 1
FI purchased a .88C round solitaire. Going with the solitaire was absolutely the right choice in my opinion, as it is just about the only ring style I like (except some simple pave designs).
Only problem is, I kind of feel like my ring gets lost in my hand.
I’m self conscious about my hands as I wish they looked more feminine. I know this is a personal issue that I should get over and all that, but we all have our weird insecurities so here I am. My fingers are a size 6.5 (ring is a size too big right now) but my palms are bigger/wider than what I would like. I’m also guilty of adoring those rings on Pinterest with giant stones on dainty little hands. So maybe my perception of what looks flattering is just a bit warped.
Fiance knows I’m self conscious about my hands and is okay if I want to select a different ring. I like the idea of sticking with the original ring just for sentiment’s sake, and I think he would secretly like that, but want to make sure I’m happy with how it looks. I have the funds to upgrade the center stone to ~1.5C, but obviously I’d also love to have that cash on hand for the wedding, too. I don’t even know if a larger stone would help given that it’s not necessarily the finger coverage I’m worried out, but my larger palms.
Does anyone have experience trying to find a flattering ring when finger coverage isn’t the only concern?
Any thoughts or opinions on my e ring and what to do are welcome.
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2018 - England
bagelqueen : I think it’s gorgeous but I prefer daintier rings! And just think, when you have a wedding ring on there it will cover more of your finger as well.
Post # 3
I don’t think your hand looks big or unfeminine with your solitare choice. However, if you’d like to upgrade the stone, better to do it now vs later.
And don’t forget when you add a wedding band, you can get more finger coverage! It really does make a difference, and did for me with my 1 carat cushion!
In my opinion, I think it’s perfect 🙂
Post # 4
We are our own worst critics. No one would look at your hand and think anything remotely like what you are saying. I really had to do a double take when I saw the photo you posted because it didn’t even come close to what you are describing.
Anyway, the ring is beautiful and looks exactly the size that it is, and is also the style that you love. I think you would have just preferred a larger stone. Personally, I couldn’t bring myself to ask for an “upgrade” right after a proposal, especially if you think it will hurt your fiance’s feelings and your budget. I know this is a bit controversial here, but I lean to the traditional and unless you had agreed to shop together, still see it as a gift. Ironically, shopping together for the ring was the tradition a couple of generations ago. Maybe on a big anniversary, one day.
Post # 5
Hi, bee. I don’t think your hand looks large or unfeminine. Your ring is lovely, however, if you want to go up in size to a 1.5 ct stone, I agree with PP that now is the time.
Pinterest and Weddingbee are awesome sights, however, I think they are temptations to compare yourself to other people and their situations. Comparisons are inevitably toxic because all we can ever do is compare our internal life to other people’s external image and we come up either feeling superior or, more often, inferior.
Your ring is just that, YOUR ring. It is beautiful.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
I think you have lovely slender hands! I think it looks perfect on you.
Post # 7
You probably won’t ever believe us internet strangers, but add me to the chorus of seeing nothing remotely unfeminine or overly large about your beautifully proportioned hands.
Plus I think your ring is lovely and don’t really believe in ‘upgrades’ so there’s that.
Post # 8
bagelqueen : I’m with PP’s, your hands look no different than most. Now I’m examining my own hand/palm! 😂
The ring looks absolutely gorgeous on you and I agree, perfect finger “coverage”. It sounds like you don’t really need an upgrade, given that a larger stone won’t make your hand look “smaller”. However, if you really want an upgrade just because, that’s nothing to be ashamed of. I would however suggest you save the extra money for the wedding, honeymoon, house etc. and upgrade for an anniversary or something!
Post # 9
um… your hands are feminine.
Maybe go try on the size you’re thinking of upgrading to, and see if you love it. You could use the same ring, so the sentimental value remains –
i personally love the size you have, but I don’t like diamonds above 1 – 1.25. Just my personal taste, though.
You need to do what you love
Post # 10
Your hand looks perfectly proportioned to me, nothing large or out-of-proportion, your fingers appear long and slender. your ring looks beautiful. If you want a larger stone to have a larger stone, great! We all have our things. Do what you need to do to be happy.
Post # 11
I have a 6.25 finger and am going with a 1.5. I am now worried if it’s too big because I don’t want it to be bumping around, and moissanite looks odder the bigger you go. Some women don’t even wear their e rings after a while anyway.
I think your hand looks nice, your ring is beautiful, and I would have guessed the stone is a lot bigger. But I totally get it. I’m nitpicking over a little gap in my own ring. Do what makes you happy but try it on with some wedding bands first. My friend swapped her e ring because she wanted it to be more “substantial”. She ended up going for size over quality and regretted it. She says her w band would have added to the “substance.”
Just my 2 cents! Moissanite is a budget friendly option if you want to swap. I honestly don’t see what you’re worried about!
Post # 12
bagelqueen : You have Hand Dysmorphia Disorder. 😜 In reality your hands look lovely and feminine. In fact your fingers look darn-near slender and the sizable length between your palm and knuckle could accommodate a stack quite nicely. Lucky you!
But if you prefer the larger stone look, now is the time to get it! Much better to be married with the new stone… either that or wait for a significant anniversary to upgrade. If I were you, I would order a cheap CZ ring off eBay or Amazon to try out the 1.5 ct size for a week or so (I did just this and it determined what size stone I wanted).
Here’s my 1.79 ct on my chubby-looking size 5 fingers. People are always surprised how small my rings are, because my squat fingers make them look bigger. I’ve learned to like them although I, too, would prefer more elegant, long fingers. 🤣
Post # 13
newbeegirl : a larger stone won’t make your hand look “smaller”
Bee, you nailed OP’s issue.
OP, that is a lot of pressure you are putting on that stone that has already endured so much over its million year lifetime lol Not even the Hope Diamond (~45 carats) can make your PALM “look smaller”. Maybe only the Star of Africa (500+ carats) has the dimensions to literally hide your palm.
I get you have insecurities, but we don’t see any manly hand! Your ring looked GORGEOUS on you! Therefore, step back a bit from all these ring pics and think. Maybe it’s not the ring nor your palm, but the way you look at both. Do that especially before spending $$$ to DOUBLE your ring size and realize you still want more.
Post # 14
lajoliebee : First off, thanks! Secondly, love that you just name-dropped famous diamonds to make your point 👏🏼😅 Oh and good advice too!
Post # 15
OP- your hands are beautiful and your ring looks great on them. You have lovely skin tone and texture and nice healthy-looking nail beds and your palms may wider than you prefer, but they aren’t actually that broad. I don’t think your ring gets lost. If you really feel the need to upgrade, I agree with those saying to go for it, but your hands do look good.
As an aside, I’ve got pretty big hands for my size- broad palms and long fingers. Apparently, I have the average hand size of a women 3 or more inches taller than me. I used to wish I had narrow, balletic palms like my cousin does, but, a few years ago, I happened to look up palmistry information about the difference between her type palms and mine and my palms definitely suit my personality. So, maybe a little peek into palmistry might make you feel more appreciation for your hands and how the tell the story of you!