Does this ring make my hands look big? (lol)

posted 1 month ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I bother upgrading the ring?
    Yes : (8 votes)
    11 %
    No : (67 votes)
    89 %
  • Post # 2
    213 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2018 - England

    bagelqueen :  I think it’s gorgeous but I prefer daintier rings! And just think, when you have a wedding ring on there it will cover more of your finger as well. 

    Post # 3
    189 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I don’t think your hand looks big or unfeminine with your solitare choice. However, if you’d like to upgrade the stone, better to do it now vs later. 

    And don’t forget when you add a wedding band, you can get more finger coverage! It really does make a difference, and did for me with my 1 carat cushion! 

    In my opinion, I think it’s perfect ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Post # 4
    11942 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    We are our own worst critics. No one would look at your hand and think anything remotely like what you are saying. I really had to do a double take when I saw the photo you posted because it didn’t even come close to what you are describing. 

    Anyway, the ring is beautiful and looks exactly the size that it is, and is also the style that you love. I think you would have just preferred a larger stone. Personally, I couldn’t bring myself to ask for an “upgrade” right after a proposal, especially if you think it will hurt your fiance’s feelings and your budget. I know this is a bit controversial here, but I lean to the traditional and unless you had agreed to shop together, still see it as a gift. Ironically, shopping together for the ring was the tradition a couple of generations ago. Maybe on a big anniversary, one day. 

    Post # 5
    188 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    Hi, bee.  I don’t think your hand looks large or unfeminine.  Your ring is lovely, however, if you want to go up in size to a 1.5 ct stone, I agree with PP that now is the time. 

    Pinterest and Weddingbee are awesome sights, however, I think they are temptations to compare yourself to other people and their situations.  Comparisons are inevitably toxic because all we can ever do is compare our internal life to other people’s external image and we come up either feeling superior or, more often, inferior. 

    Your ring is just that, YOUR ring.  It is beautiful.

    Post # 6
    467 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

    I think you have lovely slender hands!  I think it looks perfect on you.

    Post # 7
    8254 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    You probably won’t ever believe us internet strangers, but add me to the chorus of seeing nothing remotely unfeminine or overly large about your beautifully proportioned hands. 

    Plus I think your ring is lovely and don’t really believe in ‘upgrades’ so there’s that. 

    bagelqueen :  

    Post # 8
    1007 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    bagelqueen :  I’m with PP’s, your hands look no different than most. Now I’m examining my own hand/palm! ๐Ÿ˜‚ 

    The ring looks absolutely gorgeous on you and I agree, perfect finger “coverage”. It sounds like you don’t really need an upgrade, given that a larger stone won’t make your hand look “smaller”. However, if you really want an upgrade just because, that’s nothing to be ashamed of. I would however suggest you save the extra money for the wedding, honeymoon, house etc. and upgrade for an anniversary or something! 

    Post # 9
    658 posts
    Busy bee


    um… your hands are feminine. 

    Maybe go try on the size you’re thinking of upgrading to, and see if you love it. You could use the same ring, so the sentimental value remains – 

    i personally love the size you have, but I don’t like diamonds above 1 – 1.25. Just my personal taste, though. 

    You need to do what you love 

    Post # 10
    6503 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Your hand looks perfectly proportioned to me, nothing large or out-of-proportion, your fingers appear long and slender. your ring looks beautiful. If you want a larger stone to have a larger stone, great! We all have our things. Do what you need to do to be happy. 

    Post # 11
    526 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2020

    I have a 6.25 finger and am going with a 1.5. I am now worried if it’s too big because I don’t want it to be bumping around, and moissanite looks odder the bigger you go. Some women don’t even wear their e rings after a while anyway. 

    I think your hand looks nice, your ring is beautiful, and I would have guessed the stone is a lot bigger. But I totally get it. I’m nitpicking over a little gap in my own ring. Do what makes you happy but try it on with some wedding bands first. My friend swapped her e ring because she wanted it to be more “substantial”. She ended up going for size over quality and regretted it. She says her w band would have added to the “substance.”

    Just my 2 cents! Moissanite is a budget friendly option if you want to swap. I honestly don’t see what you’re worried about!

    Post # 12
    1336 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    bagelqueen :  You have Hand Dysmorphia Disorder. ๐Ÿ˜œ In reality your hands look lovely and feminine. In fact your fingers look darn-near slender and the sizable length between your palm and knuckle could accommodate a stack quite nicely. Lucky you!

    But if you prefer the larger stone look, now is the time to get it! Much better to be married with the new stone… either that or wait for a significant anniversary to upgrade. If I were you, I would order a cheap CZ ring off eBay or Amazon to try out the 1.5 ct size for a week or so (I did just this and it determined what size stone I wanted).

    Here’s my 1.79 ct on my chubby-looking size 5 fingers. People are always surprised how small my rings are, because my squat fingers make them look bigger. I’ve learned to like them although I, too, would prefer more elegant, long fingers. ๐Ÿคฃ

    Post # 13
    133 posts
    Blushing bee

    newbeegirl :  a larger stone won’t make your hand look “smaller”

    Bee, you nailed OP’s issue.

    OP, that is a lot of pressure you are putting on that stone that has already endured so much over its million year lifetime lol Not even the Hope Diamond (~45 carats) can make your PALM “look smaller”. Maybe only the Star of Africa (500+ carats) has the dimensions to literally hide your palm.

    I get you have insecurities, but we don’t see any manly hand! Your ring looked GORGEOUS on you!  Therefore, step back a bit from all these ring pics and think. Maybe it’s not the ring nor your palm, but the way you look at both. Do that especially before spending $$$ to DOUBLE your ring size and realize you still want more.

    Post # 14
    1007 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    lajoliebee :  First off, thanks! Secondly, love that you just name-dropped famous diamonds to make your point ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ˜… Oh and good advice too! 

    Post # 15
    6087 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2016

    OP- your hands are beautiful and your ring looks great on them. You have lovely skin tone and texture and nice healthy-looking nail beds and your palms may wider than you prefer, but they aren’t actually that broad. I don’t think your ring gets lost. If you really feel the need to upgrade, I agree with those saying to go for it, but your hands do look good.

    As an aside, I’ve got pretty big hands for my size- broad palms and long fingers. Apparently, I have the average hand size of a women 3 or more inches taller than me. I used to wish I had narrow, balletic palms like my cousin does, but, a few years ago, I happened to look up palmistry information about the difference between her type palms and mine and my palms definitely suit my personality. So, maybe a little peek into palmistry might make you feel more appreciation for your hands and how the tell the story of you!

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