- 2 years ago
- Wedding: June 2021
I’m worried about the cost of our destination wedding for guests vs. what we can offer them. Can anyone chime in with guest perspective? I feel like it sounds fun and decent value for money, but I’m probably biased because it’s my “dream wedding
so to speak.
For background, we are all in northeast united states. FH and I are in NYC, which is notoriously expensive to have a nice wedding in, especially since we are paying ourselves entirely. It’s relatively common here to travel to the Carribean or (less common) Mexico, including for weddings. Pretty much everyone I know has been to one or travels to the carribean regularly for vacation. FH and I could have gone that route, but it just doesn’t appeal to us…it’s not in line with our personalities, and I didn’t like any of the resort wedding packages I looked into. I just couldnt see spending thousands and asking guests to pay 300+ for flights and 150+ per night for a party I wasn’t even excited by.
So, we decided to think bigger and started looking at Italy (also where we got engaged, so it has sentimenal value for us). We’ve found a venue we love and have a date (June 2021) we think will give people plenty of time to plan. (EDIT: The venue is a villa and grounds, we would have the ceremony right on the grounds and up to 50 people could stay at the villa for the week.) But after the initial excitement passed, I’m worried guests will feel it wasn’t worth it. Anyone willing to give their opinion is welcome! Positive OR negative. Keep in mind I would never hold it against someone if they couldn’t make it for any reason, whether financial or not having enough vacation days free or whatnot. So here’s a general breakdown:
Flights out of NYC can be found for 500 round trip, but can go 600 or higher (if you wait too long to buy, especially). We plan to try to get a group rate wtih an airline as an option for people.
The villa we will rent out, has to be rented out for the week, saturday – saturday. Unfortnately because of this it was impossible to book the wedding for the weekend, so it would be a weekday wedding. The flight is pretty long from US to Italy, so would have been difficult for people to manage a weekend stay anyway (it takes a day at just for the jetlag to wear off). But I know it’s definetly a downside.
The villa can hold 30-50 people, and would cost about 400 per person for the week, or 57 per night per person.
For those who don’t want to stay in the villa or if we have over 50 people (possible, we’re inviting 75), there are a number of hotels nearby, prices ranging from 60 – 120 per night.
Things we’re trying to do to improve guest experience:
Subsidizing villa cost somewhat – it’s actually more than 400 per person but if we put in a few thousand ourselves, we can simplify things by offering that flat fee.
Free wine and beer all week. We will have a huge amount available that people can just come and take if they want some while relaxing by the pool, hanging out, having dinner, etc.
At least 3 – 4 wedding events in addition to the wedding itself…a welcome dinner, a rehearsal dinner, a farewell dinner, and possibly dinner or brunch for everyone another night.
All the villa apartments have their own kitchens. We are thinking about stocking up on supplies for everyone, simple breakfast options so they don’t have to spend money on breakfast during the week? Fruits, yogurt, bread, eggs, etc).
And then the standard stuff you might expect from a wedding…welcome bags, favors, open bar.
So finally: What’s the general thoughts on this? If you were a guest invited to this, would you think it sounded good/worth the money? Or would you feel annoyed and imposed upon? We did ask several of the intended guests their general thought on the idea (without actually saying details like the cost of the villas or the stuff we have planned for the week) and the response has been positive, but I worry people are just being polite.