So if your villa can hold 50 people at $400+ each, its over 20k for the villa. Do they want to be paid with a cash deposit and then again with cash at the end? Have you seen the villa? How far is it from an airport- what kind of travel do your guests have to do to get there on top of a 12 hour flight?
Does that include all the extras? Catering, set up, staffing, chairs, tables, silverware, plates, flowers, lighting, anything else. Or is that another 5 to 10k possibly?
And then of course your flights, your suits//dresses/hair makeup/ photographer?
I think the math wouldn’t make sense for any of my extended family which was why we didn’t do a destination wedding- my 90 year old grandma isn’t going to get on a plane for 12 hours.
But I’m more worried at the weird math for you.
If 75 people say they want to come and of those, only 20 want to stay at the villa now its an extra cost for you for the empty rooms, due around the time you’re paying for rings and dresess and hair and flowers and catering and a week’s worth of booze for 50 people, and still the same food costs. If only 10 people say they want to go, then suddenly you have a bill for 16,000 for the villa.
I think if your wedding budget is like 50k, maybe this makes sense. I dunno. Planning a wedding is hard and ultimately whatever works for you, but you’re already compromising a lot to make this work- you’re going to get married on a thursday or friday and spend the week beforehand shuttling around yogurts and beers to your loved ones, but only the ones that can take a whole week off for your wedding and can handle a flight. Also don’t underestimate how much a whole villa of people can drink if they’re just chilling for a week.
If I were you I would keep the Italy piece if that’s what matters, but keep looking- find a place that holds like 20 people, or a hotel that has room blocks, and is available over the weekend, is close to an airport, near a city people want to see. Some arrangement you can easily cover if very few people book.
OR if the everyone in the villa concept is what matters to you, then I’d look up the hudson, or out in vermont or new hampshire for a summer camp you can rent right before or after the summer camp season ends. Or some kind of great hotel on the Cape.
Thats my take. I mean if you can afford to cover the whole villa yourself, you do you. But if its going to be a stretch if not enough people come, then I think there are still so many options I wouldn’t lock in.